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In 1965, Planned Parenthood of Connecticut won the U.S. Supreme Court victory, Griswold v. Connecticut, that finally and completely rolled back state and local laws that had outlawed the use of contraception by married couples     (files.catbox.moe)
submitted by Kozel to Family 1 month ago (+1/-2)
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In 1965, Planned Parenthood of Connecticut won the U.S. Supreme Court victory, Griswold v. Connecticut, that finally and completely rolled back state and local laws that had outlawed the use of contraception by married couples
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Your kids must want to be near you     (Family)
submitted by Razzoriel to Family 3 months ago (+33/-1)
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If you are a just and loving father, your kids will love your mother too, but always want to be with you. Especially sons. When they become teens, their relationship with their father will base all their relationships forward. You being their safe harbor will mean they will always come to you when things get ugly.

Be there for your children. It means the world to them. And if they are not, dont despair; being just AND loving is better than being only one.
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Correcting children      (Family)
submitted by Razzoriel to Family 3 months ago (+2/-0)
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You heard it a lot from the Stephen Molyneux types that spanking is awful, barbaric and scars your children for life, and should never happen. Well, that is only half the story.

Children like to test their boundaries. EVERY TIME. You know how women like to shit test you? Women are like children in that sense. Having a child and bringing them up is a cornucopia of tests they will give you. Test your patience, knowledge, lungs, physical fitness, and even your social skills. You need to stay sharp around your kids, because their survival also depends on that.

So when they behave wrongly, parents accordingly need to correct that. The easiest way is to incentivize correct behaviour, but that alone does not cut it. The infamous finger on the power outlet image needs correction. And a stern "no" will sometimes not suffice.

Grounding is a good way to punish bad behaviour. The "discipline corner" has limitations, and kids will wander away if you are not aware. When it does, its a good punishment, but it can be misused when parents let kids stay there for more than ten minutes. Kids have awful notions of time. Grounding them for ten minutes or an hour for them is the same for discipline, but they grow irritated and annoyed in the latter, escalating further issues down the day.

Finally, spanking is a tool that is your last resort, and can NEVER be liberally used. Kids need to understand that if they insist on their errors, physical punishment is a possibility. Obviously, a slap on the leg/arm with enough strength to cause mild pain is the same as swinging a belt multiple times. Again, they only understand the concept, not the gravity. And the more you use physical punishment, the less they will believe its something awful; after all, they have experienced it. And going from a slap to belt swings is not a good escalation.

Remember that almost all modern laws are to disencourage you from forming a solid family unit and to lure you into the devil's contract of doing what you want when you do want, but having to sell your soul to the system in exchange. Your children will need your protection from this awful world, so pick your battles. No-spanking as a rule is an ideal, but should never be fully implemented unless your kid is very well behaved by nature. And if you have a son, and this is his case, you may want to reevaluate his upbringing; male children cause all sorts of chaos in their perfect natural state.
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The case for escapism     (Family)
submitted by Razzoriel to Family 3 months ago (+3/-0)
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You heard it a lot. Games are bad. Sports are good. Well, in a sense, yes. But both form the same function in your brain. They are a release valve for your pressured stress. Games form an alternate reality where your brain can immerse itself and get dopamine rushes for acquiring accomplishments. You also absorb all energy of the created reality. If you play a game where women can fight and overpower men, you will be more likely to believe it, or at the very least tolerate it.

This is true for all media, including streaming. Consume bad media, you become corrupt with its trash. Escapism on virtuous media does not make it good, but only makes it less of a problem. A good example of that is how first-person shooters molded people who played them to be aware of how guns worked. This unintended consequence has led to a lot of changes in the world regarding gun laws, and it only didnt get much more lax because there are still people alive who never lived it; the ancient people today lived Woodstock and a forced pacifist trend that will only fully die when they are gone.

Today you must be aware of the problems regarding escapism. Sports and hobbies are the least worst of them, followed by social gatherings. Escapist media is the worst, but on few occasions can provide what other forms dont. Your kids cannot live in bubbles outside their reality. If you raise your kids without the notion of what is a console, a game or modern movies, they will become alienated, and start to question the way you raised them. Homeopathic doses in a controlled environment is preferrable to a complete denial of the existance of the concept.

All things being said, teaching multiple ways of relaxing is the best way. Your kids will pick and choose their own preferred way, and from there its easier to navigate.
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The role of schools     (Family)
submitted by Razzoriel to Family 3 months ago (+1/-0)
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The modern idea of schools educating humans has failed. The experiment has ran for more than five generations so far, and the idea has not solified the notion that the minimal society's unit, the family, are the ultimate drivers for education. Emperor Marcus Aurelius thanked his father for not taking him to public school when writing his Meditations, as most of his peers were going. He was educated by mentors personally paid for by his parents; the model that worked best for producing mankind's most developed societies. This was more than two thousand years ago. Mankind knows how to raise men and women for a long time, but we are barbarians living in a forsaken world that neglets successes of the dead and their past so we can pursue our worldly goals.

Private schools are a hybrid from both; varying degrees of state intervention and control in an environment that is ultimately maintained and curated by parents. Its a great investment for your kids, and you can very well determine its success by gauging the level of interaction it has with the children's parents.

Last but not least; more than five hours a week of independence your kids have from their parents, and they will start developing parental absence, the biggest scourge of children development today. Dont take kids to kindergarden. They start to develop away this when they reach 5, and by 7-8 years, they can fully understand the notion of study and coming back home after it. Homeschooling is excellent, and even highschool dropouts on average have as good a development on their kids as a mid-level private school. College-level parents will educate kids on average on par with top-level private schools. The best middle-ground seems to homeschool until the teenage years, but each community, place and family may have their own formulas. The basic for a 99.9% improvement on your kids today, finally is: school starting at 7, learning how to read and write by 6 to an upper degree (no need to be perfect) and no kindergarden.

I dont have to mention how even from an economical perspective women getting full-time jobs are a net negative for your family. You cannot fight communists and subversives by letting them dictate how your family is going to be made. The more your wife is married to her career, the bigger the cross you'll have to carry. Ill pray for you and your bravery if you have to. Luck favors the bold; be bold for your kids and use your will to shape a world for them you never had.
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Breaking your generational curses     (Family)
submitted by Razzoriel to Family 3 months ago (+0/-1)
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All families begin cursed. We are sons of Adam and Eve, and our Original Sin is a mark that can only be reduced and covered, never fully removed. The only two humans in mankind's history to be born without sin were Mary and Jesus Christ. As such, you will be born in sin and curse, and its your duty to remove their mark on your lineage, for you will also produce your own sins and curses. The primordial question is: will your curses be less of a burden to your kids than the ones received by you?

Genetics play a role in this, but only one side of the story is told. If racial supremacy is to be maintained, then what about humans who went above and beyond to reach a level of virtue their kin could not? If you do not praise them, you are not doing your part as well as only criticizing the worst. Whites trying to reclaim their lost splendour need to recognize the virtue of other races so their own are elevated. Catholics are very thankful today for example of the defiance of African bishops who deny their blessings to degenerates. Only a handful of Western bishops did so. And most that did are not as vociferous. This has everything to do with how you raise your family, because praising virtue is more necessary then rejecting vice (both are needed).

See where your parents made errors, but also fight to keep in your family what they did right. Recognize their limitations as human beings, because you will also be limited to your own kids. And last but not least, be the parent your kids need, not the one you always wanted. Dont fall into the modernist trap of believing all that is new is good. Seek what has been tried and proved. Your kids will thank you that even when you failed, the spirit of the decision was in the right place.