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Goats - I Need Some Advice & Encouragement

submitted by Scyber to AskUpgoat 4 hoursMay 22, 2025 17:50:35 ago (+13/-0)     (AskUpgoat)

Pre-Context:
I'm almost 42. I don't have a car. I may not have a job by next year. No kids. No pets.
No girlfriend.
Only friends I have are those with kids & struggling too. I don't wanna make life awkward for them.
My mother is a legitimate cunt. She's almost 70 & has a nasty attitude & chain smokes. (I feel bad for her pets). I'm an only child & my dad died when I was 2 years old.
My extended family doesn't like me but they MAY help me financially yet they live outside of Wisconsin (where I live).
I hate my current situation & have been living in literal hell for the past 6 months after the neighbors upstairs from me moved in - a Young couple with a 2 year old boy & they're LOUD - Causing me to lose sleep and significant stress to the point of the police being called 2-3 times a month on me due to other residents in the building complaining about their noise even though I wasn't home for most of the complaints. Now the property mgmt company filed an Eviction on April 25 (35 days before I'm supposed to move) and I cannot find a place to move because of it.




This is gonna be long.

I don't know where to start.
I have to move by June 1st. My property mgmt company wants me out when my 1 year lease is over. I don't care because I hate it here. I'm on the verge of beating the shit out of the neighbors who live directly above me because of all the noise they make. They're also the reason why I have to move - I'm being the scapegoat of all the noise complaints other neighbors in the building are using against because the assholes who live above me have a 2 year old kid who they're using as an excuse for their overtly and unnecessary loud behavior.
I've had the police called on me at LEAST 20 times for noise complaints within the past year and maybe 2 of those I actually did. Most complaints were BEFORE 9pm (quiet hours are 9pm-7am in my city) but I got so many complaints that I DIDN'T DO, to the point where the property mgmt company didn't care and put an Eviction Notice on my record 35 DAYS BEFORE MY LEASE EXPIRES.

I went to court on Tuesday and didn't even go in front of a judge/commissioner and made a plea agreement with their lawyer to have my eviction temporarily sealed from my record to find a place by June 1st - Otherwise If I don't move by then, the eviction case will reopen and I'll have the sheriffs in my apt packing up my stuff by the end of June.

I don't have anywhere to go. My mom is a legitimate Karen type cunt who hates my guts and all my "friends" said I can't stay with them - most have kids and I wouldn't want to impose on their lives and make it awkward for them.

I also can't afford anything. Rents have skyrocketed in the past year to the point where a decent 1 bedroom apt is OVER $1000 a month.
My only options are moving to the SERIOUS GHETTO part of town, or a rooming house that has a 6 month lease that's in the spic ghetto. That's ALL I can afford.

And to add insult to injury, I don't have a car anymore (long story) and I may not have a job by the start of next year (another long story).

I honestly don't know what to do and on the verge of having a full on psychological breakdown from all the stress.

Do I say fuck it and put my stuff in a storage locker and stay here until the sheriffs kick me out & move out of state, or should I move into the rooming house (which is half the amount I'm paying now) and just tough it out until I get a car/van to move out of state for good.

I live in Milwaukee and honestly hate it here. It's getting overpopulated with assholes from Illinois, Minnesota and Texas and they're pricing lifelong residents out of the rental market here, crime has gone up ever since they elected a nigger mayor (who's younger than me) and sales taxes went up immediately after that asshole was elected to the point where the city/county has a $200 million surplus for their budget so now they're going APESHIT with the construction all over the county and causing major headaches - The city has been tearing up the street/sidewalk right outside my apartment building since the end of March and it's scheduled to go on until the end of the year.

I'm tired and at my wits end. Like I said, I'm on the verge of having a full on psychotic breakdown from all the stress.



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[ - ] clymer 5 points 3 hoursMay 22, 2025 18:44:03 ago (+5/-0)

When I was 25, landed a gig as a caretaker for a couple that was older, took care of their animals and dogs, did odd jobs on the weekends. No rent, they paid me 50 bucks a week and covered my food expenses (grocery receipts). Those gigs are out there, need to start fresh

[ - ] Trope 5 points 3 hoursMay 22, 2025 18:42:27 ago (+5/-0)*

Milwaukee huh? My parents left behind a cabin on one of the many lakes up that way some hours north. If I didn’t have siblings who were adamant about that liability of a property (still in fucking probate btw), I’d welcome you to park a trailer on the edge of the property. Still, even if that option were viable, you’d need wheels to get into town for provisions.

What I’d like to realistically suggest is that you use this time to consider all of your options. And if you haven’t been supplementing magnesium, start now. Stress is cumulative. The conversion of cortisol back to the inactive form of cortisone requires magnesium which is an electrolyte almost void from the soil, water, and food supply. Agricultural scientists warned congress of the magnesium depletion 100 years ago. It is a fucked situation. I took 200mg of Magnesium Citrate last year and my mind calmed the fuck down immediately the following day - and stayed that way. I don’t deal with stress anymore.

Your mother is a cunt, but will she grant temporarily asylum in the garage, basement, or attic just long enough so that you can get your shit together?

The beautiful thing is: You can be ANYWHERE doing ANYTHING. And since you are facing rock bottom, you have every opportunity to make massive moves you’d otherwise be too afraid to take.

Can you stop paying your rent and dish out for a beater car? If you’re going to go van life, find a city or town you’d like to escape to and lookup job listings pertaining to your trade skill. There are many $100K per year random jobs that require only a college degree and experience in a corporate job setting. IE Analyst or Logistics Ordering person. Random roles one doesn’t even think about.

Hold strong. I had to give up everything and move back to the concrete jungle in my 20s. I lived in my mom’s unfinished attic. Surprisingly, none of the women I brought home ever complained about that attic. Absolutely hated it, but every single day, I was encouraged to get the fuck out. Now I live less than a mile away from farmland and can smell the corn crops on a cool summer night.

You might want to consider starting a GoFundMe. ( but a better site) as I think it would be cool if you got yourself a meth lab on wheels. I’m sure many of the fags on Voat would help you to get an old Winnebago. Then you’d be set.

[ - ] Scyber [op] 2 points 3 hoursMay 22, 2025 19:07:59 ago (+2/-0)*

Thanks for the advice. And my mom is headset on not having me move in. She offered to help pay a security deposit if I find a place. And I don't want to live with her either - She's almost 70 and has a nasty attitude plus she's a chain smoker - She smokes those Cheyenne mini-cigars and when I visited her on Mother's Day, her whole place smelled like cigarettes and got all over my clothes. I understand that's just a small thing to complain about, but I don't smoke cigs (420 sometimes) but her shitty attitude is what makes life hard for me. She's honestly my mortal enemy -I have NEVER had a good relationship with her because she's such an entitled cunt.
When her husband died (My abusive stepdad) she told me she stayed with him for 30 years and was glad she was able to get a condo and new car out of him while he was still alive. That's how bad she is.
I'm an o nly child and she STILL complains that I'll never give her grandkids. I can't form legitimate relationships with women because of all the abuse I was subjected to growing up It's ALL because of her.

[ - ] ScheduledSuicide 0 points 2 hoursMay 22, 2025 19:17:24 ago (+0/-0)

I bet you could get any apartment you wanted! How do you feel about wearing black face and getting a perm?

[ - ] Trope 0 points 2 hoursMay 22, 2025 19:48:07 ago (+0/-0)

If she’s willing to put down a security deposit on a place, take that offer. Not sure if she’s using this as a power move to hold some form of control out of you, but beggars can’t be choosers. Never look a gift horse in the mouth, they say.

Would she put a down payment on a Winnebago? House on wheels. Or trailer. You wouldn’t need a storage unit as you could pack all your shit and get out of Dodge.

At her age and that amount of tobacco, might want to make sure she has a living trust or will. Because probate is a lot of work and you’ll have to be the administrator to her estate. Shit takes time, travel, and years. Not to mention attorney fees. Unfortunately, the more evil an old person is, the longer they seem to live - as if their will to survive is an act of spite toward others.

What do you do for a living? Without Doxxing yourself, if you can talk about your trade skill openly, on of the other Voat users might have some valuable insight. Are you too old to enlist on the military? It would buy you money and time.

Reminder that you can always move to a cheap small town and work any unskilled labor position. Servers and bartenders can make bank on tips working long hours.

[ - ] Scyber [op] 1 point 1 hourMay 22, 2025 20:18:07 ago (+1/-0)

I'm a CNC machinist. I pretty much make enough to pay my bills and eat & have little to save.

You're absolutely correct about evil people living longer out of spite - My mother is extremely spiteful at 69 years old and doesn't look like she's slowing down even though she smokes a pack of mini-cigars every day. Yet she told me she got 4 covid shots during the lockdowns so I'm praying her cunt-ass dies soon because I'm sick and tired of dealing with her entitled attitude and belittling me. My father died in 1985 and my uncle (brother of my dad) said he committed suicide in order to get away from my mom. I don't know if it's true but as I get older and realize how mentally unstable my mom is, I wouldn't doubt it.
And that's another thing that has seriously fucked me up - Not having my biological father be there for me - Instead I've had abusive "makeshift" "fathers" who were drunks and physically beat me when I wasn't dumped off at an unregistered baby sitter's house while my mom went to work and didn't pick me up for 3 days.
That's how fucked up I am.

[ - ] rapid_water 2 points 2 hoursMay 22, 2025 19:58:08 ago (+3/-1)

Godspeed. Perhaps a Christian shelter that offers temporary assistance to get back on your feet?

[ - ] dosvydanya_freedomz 1 point 1 hourMay 22, 2025 20:46:02 ago (+1/-0)

amen

[ - ] Crackinjokes 2 points 2 hoursMay 22, 2025 19:34:20 ago (+2/-0)

Buy a van and do the van life. It has many advantages over renting a s*** box that stuck to the land.

You'll save a ton of money in Van life if you get a job because you won't have rent to pay you also won't have all those mandatory utilities hooked up. All that stuff adds up. There are plenty of places to park for free truck stops rest areas most shopping centers. All you need is a cell phone plan

Plus you can go where the jobs are and you don't have to have a commute. If you get a job somewhere you can find a shopping center within a mile up there to park most of the time. People talking about you getting harassed or way overblown. That only happens if you're parking in neighborhoods and stuff. If you park between stores overnight in most shopping centers most people won't know whether or not you're with the adjacent store and you're just not going to have a problem.

Get a planet fitness membership and you can take a shower anytime you want and get a little workout in so it'll be good for you.

I've had several friends who've done this one paid off all his student loans within a year and he lived in a nice Dodge I forget what it was called like a trooper van or something from around the 1980s '90s I guess.

Trust me this is a good movie even if you're not broke. It's a good way to save money.

[ - ] bobdole9 2 points 3 hoursMay 22, 2025 18:38:53 ago (+2/-0)

I used to live in Waukesha.

If you want to run out of Wisconsin, get your shit in order. Finding a job elsewhere today can certainly assist in finding somewhere to live.

Figure what state you want and see where you can be happy.

Turns out northern Georgia winters are three weeks of below freezing and measurable snow maybe once every four years. Summer humidity can be a bitch, though.

[ - ] namefagsrgay 1 point 26 minutesMay 22, 2025 21:48:30 ago (+1/-0)

Kill them all.

[ - ] Sector2 1 point 2 hoursMay 22, 2025 19:25:03 ago (+1/-0)

When it comes to 1-bedroom apartments, the average rent in [my town], CA, is $3,632. - rent.com

Be encouraged by how much cheaper rent is there.

But maybe it's time to move somewhere else? The rooming house sounds bad too, but if that's what will let you get a car/van and move to a decent city/region/state, might be worth sticking out.

The great thing about your situation is it's an opportunity to rethink your whole "what you'll do when you grow up" plan. First thing is to reduce your stress level. People make terrible decisions when they're on the verge of having a full on psychotic breakdown. Take your magnesium, reduce your stress level, then think about what you'd really like to be doing.

[ - ] drstrangergov 1 point 4 hoursMay 22, 2025 18:02:36 ago (+1/-0)

become a fisherman, oilfield hand, ranchhand, whatever provides room and board to build up a nest egg. sometimes you've got to sleep in your car, but if youve got a clear goal its bearable..

[ - ] Love240 1 point 3 hoursMay 22, 2025 18:26:19 ago (+1/-0)

No fucking car, holy shit, can nobody read?

[ - ] ScheduledSuicide 1 point 2 hoursMay 22, 2025 19:21:34 ago (+1/-0)

This man obviously needs a job and you're out here berating people.

[ - ] Love240 1 point 2 hoursMay 22, 2025 19:25:20 ago (+1/-0)

Stop defending ignorance.

[ - ] ScheduledSuicide 2 points 2 hoursMay 22, 2025 19:30:05 ago (+2/-0)

Haha! No, it's a joke! He needs a place to live, not a job. It was furthering your point that I couldn't read either... Aw, fuck... never mind.

[ - ] Sector2 0 points 2 hoursMay 22, 2025 19:32:25 ago (+0/-0)

Love240 has a job, and he volunteers!

[ - ] drstrangergov 0 points 3 hoursMay 22, 2025 18:30:30 ago (+0/-0)

so go to sea for a season and buy a van. sleep in a tent. it's summer. go do a forest service contract. you're young. you should be out having adventures. you can't live in your moms basement forever.

[ - ] HelenHighwater 1 point 4 hoursMay 22, 2025 18:01:13 ago (+1/-0)

Van life.

[ - ] Scyber [op] 1 point 4 hoursMay 22, 2025 18:02:13 ago (+1/-0)

No car.

[ - ] HelenHighwater 1 point 3 hoursMay 22, 2025 18:23:31 ago (+1/-0)

in US? Go to your local craigslist and look under rooms/shared. Some people rent out rooms after kids move out. Nice areas, and friendly people. IF you can look presentable and come up with 400-700/mo, you can get a room.

[ - ] Scyber [op] 0 points 2 hoursMay 22, 2025 19:23:49 ago (+0/-0)

I've been looking on CL. See my comment below about the weirdo types of people looking for roommates in this area. There's something in the water.

[ - ] Cantaloupe 0 points 39 minutesMay 22, 2025 21:35:36 ago (+0/-0)

Relax, you have a lot of options.

Will post some advice.

[ - ] Peleg 0 points 1 hourMay 22, 2025 21:10:36 ago (+0/-0)

Just a few weeks ago there was a post right here on upgoat about an area in the northern part of Arkansas. This article was practicly Begging White people to move there!
Crap man! I'm in a pretty good part of the country and I was really considering making the move just to get away from the few niggers and the wetbacks that are shitting up my area!
If I woke up tomorrow morning and found myself in your position I wouldn't think twice. I would hop on a bus and get my ass to that part of Arkansas or smack dab in the middle of West Virginia. Once you're there you go straight to some churches and tell them your troubles. They will gladly help you get on your feet. You might have to spend a few nights "camping out under the stars" but this is the Perfect time of year for that.
Now I say this while assuming you are White and straight. If you're a stinking nigger faggot it won't work out so well for you. LOL.

This is Not a bad thing that is happening to you. This is Your chance! Get Out of That Godless Pit and Get Yourself a Better Life!

[ - ] Ducktalesooo000ooo 0 points 1 hourMay 22, 2025 20:39:09 ago (+0/-0)

Is your plasma still unvaxxed?

[ - ] dosvydanya_freedomz 0 points 2 hoursMay 22, 2025 19:53:24 ago (+0/-0)*

i honestly dont know what to say in your situation. i asked AI for you and ....


Immediate Crisis Management
1. Housing Crisis
The top priority is finding a stable place to stay before June 1. Even a less-than-ideal rooming house is better than being homeless. It buys time.

Shelters or transitional housing programs might also be worth contacting. They often help people in eviction or housing crisis situations.

Consider contacting:

Community Advocates Milwaukee (they help with housing, energy assistance, and crisis support).

211 Wisconsin – just dial 2-1-1 or go to 211wisconsin.org for local resources.

Legal Aid Society of Milwaukee – if there's any possibility to challenge the eviction or seek more time.

2. Storage + Planning
If staying put and risking sheriff eviction is on the table, then putting belongings into a storage unit can prevent loss of property and buy some flexibility.

Coordinate that early so it’s not a panic decision at the end.

3. Mental Health
The person clearly mentions being at a breaking point mentally. They need to speak to a professional.

In Milwaukee, there are free or sliding-scale counseling services, like:

Milwaukee County Behavioral Health Services

Sixteenth Street Community Health Centers

IMPACT 211 can help find a crisis counselor or therapist.

4. Employment + Income
Without a car or guaranteed job, it's time to explore:

Remote work opportunities – customer service, virtual assistant, transcription, etc.

Short-term gigs – temp work, warehouse jobs, food delivery (bike options if no car).

Longer-Term Considerations
A. Relocating Out of State
If they truly hate Milwaukee and want to start over, relocation may be viable — but not without some plan or support network in place.

They should not wait until eviction happens. Use the time now to network, look at job boards in other states, and explore relocation assistance programs. Some cities or states offer incentives or help for relocating job seekers.



TL;DR for them:
Move into the rooming house for now. Put your stuff in storage if needed. Get mental health help immediately. Contact local agencies for housing and legal aid. Start working on an exit plan from Milwaukee if that’s what you want — but survive first.

Let me know if you want help drafting a reply to them that says this more tactfully.

[ - ] GlowNiggerDick 0 points 2 hoursMay 22, 2025 19:51:19 ago (+0/-0)







Doesn't seem like you have anyone to impress the shared housing is what I would go for. You can cut your over head in half, save up for a truck.

If your job is giving you anxiety about long term employment work on finding another one.

You're not seeing the positives that are right in front of you.

If you get a truck and know where to dump shit you can make money anywhere you see a mess at business.

[ - ] texasblood 0 points 2 hoursMay 22, 2025 19:39:45 ago (+0/-0)

So proud we raised our kids,they didn't raise us.
This behavior would never be allowed muchless tolerated.
My kids barely had a dorm in school,nothing close to apt/communal living.
That whole nigger lifestyle thing isn't to be for white people as we are here.
Clearly Op made choices AGAIN.
Mom/dad ain't playing anymore like they said.

[ - ] clymer 0 points 3 hoursMay 22, 2025 18:42:11 ago (+0/-0)

https://chicago.craigslist.org/sox/hea/d/lansing-live-in-carer/7849670217.html

it might not look like much, but you need to start somewhere

[ - ] Spaceman84 0 points 4 hoursMay 22, 2025 18:01:15 ago (+0/-0)

Live in a car for a couple of months and then move to a different area.

[ - ] Scyber [op] 2 points 4 hoursMay 22, 2025 18:02:54 ago (+2/-0)

If I had a car I'd move out of state immediately.

[ - ] bobdole9 0 points 3 hoursMay 22, 2025 18:39:55 ago (+0/-0)

Can you afford a U-Haul?

[ - ] Spaceman84 0 points 3 hoursMay 22, 2025 18:51:40 ago (+0/-0)

If you’re not paying rent you can afford a car payment.

[ - ] Trope 0 points 2 hoursMay 22, 2025 19:51:08 ago (+0/-0)

Spaceman84 makes a great point.

[ - ] xmasskull 0 points 4 hoursMay 22, 2025 17:58:49 ago (+1/-1)

Ammo Up! Head for your nearest "Gun Range" shoot a few down range,the smell of cordite will clear your head. Good Luck.

[ - ] big_fat_dangus 0 points 1 hourMay 22, 2025 21:09:56 ago (+1/-1)

Proof that idiot boomers don't even read the posts they stupidly respond to.

[ - ] DukeofRaul 0 points 4 hoursMay 22, 2025 17:57:30 ago (+1/-1)

Wjere do youbl8ve? Craigslist is a good bet to find a rommmate. It so7nds like lame advice but its a good way to start without anything after ypu m9ve. I met two of my old room mates there when i moved

[ - ] Scyber [op] 1 point 4 hoursMay 22, 2025 18:01:49 ago (+1/-0)

I've been looking on craigslist but there's a good number of weirdos looking for roommates. There's one guy who posts every week looking for a roommate but he's a nudist and mentions it in his ads. That's the type of fucked up shit in this area.

[ - ] DukeofRaul 2 points 4 hoursMay 22, 2025 18:08:31 ago (+2/-0)

Get a hot tent and a cot and a gym memebership for ahowers and atuff. Air bnbs and couxh surf. Do food j9bs

[ - ] DukeofRaul 1 point 4 hoursMay 22, 2025 18:07:02 ago (+1/-0)

Dont m9ve in with that dude

[ - ] HonkyMcNiggerSpic -1 points 4 hoursMay 22, 2025 18:07:52 ago (+0/-1)

You can team up with @Joe_McCarthy and move into his sucky fucky camp under a bridge somewheres.

Option 2: Go to Sandpoint, Idaho and move onto owen bejewin's beartardia land.

Option 3. Try and find a cheap van. Look on Facebook Marketplace and wherever else you can and hole up in it for a while until you can get back on track.

Option 4: Summertime is here. Buy a tent, set it up near a creek or river and camp out all summer.

Other than that, I'm sure your mom loves you and you may need to go suck it up buttercup and make up with her while gritting your teeth really hard just until you can get back on your feet. Good luck.