Anyone got advice for dealing with people who do dumb things, then make excuses that are impossible to be true thereby insulting you with their lie while you're already upset with them for doing something stupid - Upgoat

Anyone got advice for dealing with people who do dumb things, then make excuses that are impossible to be true thereby insulting you with their lie while you're already upset with them for doing something stupid
submitted by osomperne to AskGoats 1 monthApr 6, 2024 22:07:35 ago (+3/-0) (AskGoats)

There is one person I know in particular who keeps doing this, and they just won't stop. It's a situation where I'm this person's only real friend and the only one who can help them with nearly everything in their life - but they keep lying to.............. save face? There is nothing particularly interesting that ever happens in this person's life and they don't really have any face to save, and these lies purely undermine me by misleading me or costing me time or money. Again, there doesn't appear to be a rhyme or reason (that I can tell) for them to tell these lies. Why are they doing this? Is there something I can say or do to make them stop?

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[ - ] DukeofRaul 5 points 1 monthApr 6, 2024 22:09:23 ago (+5/-0)

Theres a reason youre the only friend. Youre getting gaslit and all that

[ + ] FacelessOne

[ - ] FacelessOne 1 point 1 monthApr 6, 2024 22:14:35 ago (+1/-0)

Duke's my friend

[ - ] Thought_Criminal 4 points 1 monthApr 7, 2024 01:46:15 ago (+4/-0)

You understand that many, many, many people are evil? There are people that would do just the things you describe to cause you pain on purpose. That is reason enough. They like lying and they like fucking you over.

[ + ] purityspiral

[ - ] purityspiral 0 points 1 monthApr 7, 2024 15:21:38 ago (+0/-0)

I think you're right but this, for me, is the hard part to accept.
I am empathic, therefor people are empathic. I know I'm wrong, but it's stuck in there.

[ + ] BulletStopper

[ - ] BulletStopper 0 points 1 monthApr 7, 2024 15:43:52 ago (+0/-0)

"I know I'm wrong, but it's stuck in there."

something... something... "...people who do dumb things..." something...

[ - ] Salacious_Salicylic 1 point 1 monthApr 7, 2024 14:09:37 ago (+1/-0)

Tell them the next time they tell you a retarded lie you're going to punch them in the face.

Then punch them in the face. Lay it out to them directly that their dishonesty is insulting to you, and that they need to alter that behavior, and you are going to help them or they are going to fear interacting with you.

That or drop them and let them suffer.

[ - ] MasterSuppressionTechnique 2 points 1 monthApr 6, 2024 22:13:03 ago (+2/-0)

They have a crippling guilt complex and were probably abused.

It's common.

Alternatively, they could literally just be that stupid and dishonest, which is also, unfortunately, very common.

Don't worry. You can't fix them.

[ - ] Aaddfgd15 1 point 1 monthApr 7, 2024 08:45:29 ago (+1/-0)

Can you give some specific examples?

In my life I'm surrounded by 3 liars that I cannot avoid (family, work etc) they all lie for different reasons:

Histrionics - lies for
attention/control. Pain 5/10. (Everybody knows, no one understands, ignore it)

Narcissist - lies for ???. Pain 10/10. Avoid!

Pathological - lies for fun? Pain 1/10 (accept it and enjoy the ride, best friend material)

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[ - ] deleted 0 points 3 weeksApr 10, 2024 13:54:59 ago (+0/-0)

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[ - ] TheYiddler 1 point 1 monthApr 7, 2024 07:00:16 ago (+1/-0)

This sounds like typical woman behavior.

Women love shit testing. It's instinct. They need a man to force them to knock it off.

[ - ] Sleazy 1 point 1 monthApr 7, 2024 05:14:03 ago (+1/-0)

They keep lying cause it keeps working.

As you said " I'm this person's only real friend and the only one who can help them with nearly everything in their life"

[ - ] yesiknow 1 point 1 monthApr 7, 2024 02:18:44 ago (+1/-0)

This is what that person is, and you have to simply accept it. Digging around to guess at a motive that can never be proven true won't change what they are.

For whatever reason you feel that helping them is what you want to do and there's nothing wrong with that, as long as you accept that they are what they are, and the next thing they say to is going to be a lie.

[ - ] Sector2 1 point 1 monthApr 6, 2024 23:48:13 ago (+1/-0)

If you're some kind of caretaker, then that explains what's going on. What you describe doesn't appear to be a friendship.

Is there something I can say or do to make them stop?

Nope, you're morally obligated to continue letting this person sponge off of you while lying and abusing your kind nature.

[ - ] HonkyMcNiggerSpic 1 point 1 monthApr 6, 2024 23:12:52 ago (+1/-0)

Tackle them to the ground and stick your finger in their butthole but make sure they wiped gud first or you'll be sorry @paul_neri

[ + ] TheSimulacra

[ - ] TheSimulacra 1 point 1 monthApr 6, 2024 23:42:26 ago (+1/-0)

Wet or dry?

What is a wet willie in the butt called?

[ + ] PeckerwoodPerry

[ - ] PeckerwoodPerry 0 points 1 monthApr 7, 2024 07:29:24 ago (+0/-0)

Foreplay for faggots?

[ + ] Anus_Expander

[ - ] Anus_Expander 0 points 1 monthApr 7, 2024 08:38:11 ago (+0/-0)

The start of a beautiful frenship

[ - ] Anus_Expander 0 points 1 monthApr 7, 2024 08:37:32 ago (+0/-0)

Yeah, I used to be married...wives can be very difficult.

[ - ] PeckerwoodPerry 0 points 1 monthApr 7, 2024 07:33:57 ago (+0/-0)

A proper slap should do the trick.

https://youtu.be/nAa36d-HPyQ?si=GZ0aWqqI1LeVBFf3

[ - ] texasblood 0 points 1 monthApr 6, 2024 23:24:21 ago (+0/-0)

LMMFAO!
BOOMER HERE!!
You will not fix GenX or Z.
Millennial or snowflakes.
You made the fuckin things,try to blame the Boomers and it just didn't work now did it.
WONT EVER FUCKING WORK!

[ + ] TheSimulacra

[ - ] TheSimulacra 4 points 1 monthApr 6, 2024 23:41:52 ago (+4/-0)

Don't think you can fix anyone...regardless of generation
That is up to them, not you.

[ + ] texasblood

[ - ] texasblood 0 points 1 monthApr 7, 2024 09:17:35 ago (+0/-0)

The whole fucking world is a blame game.
It's never"my"fault.
GenX is the core of the 1980 lunacy movement even my daughter acknowledges as her world then.
Zero integrity,twisted morals all stoned on high wattage pot

[ + ] osomperne

[ - ] osomperne [op] 0 points 3 weeksApr 10, 2024 13:56:38 ago (+0/-0)

not sure how you got on this, but i'm discarding your comment because it doesn't seem connected to anything. just "be angry at these people i'd like you to be angry at"

[ - ] Gowithit 0 points 1 monthApr 6, 2024 22:15:54 ago (+0/-0)

impossible to you

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Anyone got advice for dealing with people who do dumb things, then make excuses that are impossible to be true thereby insulting you with their lie while you're already upset with them for doing something stupid submitted by osomperne to AskGoats 1 monthApr 6, 2024 22:07:35 ago (+3/-0) (AskGoats)

Anyone got advice for dealing with people who do dumb things, then make excuses that are impossible to be true thereby insulting you with their lie while you're already upset with them for doing something stupid
submitted by osomperne to AskGoats 1 monthApr 6, 2024 22:07:35 ago (+3/-0) (AskGoats)