I'm seriously coming to you guys for advice because I don't know who else to talk to about this. These are serious issues that I can't bring up at work or ask my friends. I don't have any close family to talk to other than my mom who's involved in this situation.
This is a long post and if you're gonna read it all, scroll to the big reveal.
TL;DR: Got evicted from my place & currently staying with my nagging bitch of a mother who won't shut the fuck up about me moving out as soon as possible (even though it's next to impossible to find an apartment) so her boyfriend can move in, but I know the reason why he NEEDS to move in with her and she doesn't know that I know (yet).
I've been going through an eviction and appeal since April, 2023. The appeal is still ongoing but I was evicted from my apartment due to my lawyer fucking up my case & promising the landlord that I would pay a certain amount of money by a time frame that I told my lawyer that I couldn't do, because I knew the money transfer into my bank account would take longer than 5 business days. In the end my lawyer made a deal with my landlord behind my back. My appeal is still open but I was evicted from my apartment January 29th - 2 days before I was scheduled to move. I put a deposit down for the movers & got a storage locker for my stuff a week before the 31st. I lost the deposit from the movers ($150).
My mom let me move in with her for 3 months while I save up for a new place. She's not asking for any rent, but wants me to help out around the house.
The past month now, she's getting really bitchy. Nagging me about when I'm finally gonna leave so she can "live her life in her own space." Ok, fine, I get it. But she gave me 3 months and I told her that I was gonna need all 3 months to save up because rents have gone up a lot in my area and a lot of places are requiring double/next to double security deposits which is shocking to me, because I haven't looked for a new apartment for almost 6 years, and rents have almost doubled in 6 years too.
I'm the only child and never had the best relationship with my mom. We both have been through a ton of emotional drama in our lives and we're both at our wits end. My real father died when I was a baby and my mom raised me while sleeping around with other guys for a couple of years until she landed on a mine - a Vietnam Vet who was exposed to Agent Orange with a severe drinking problem and a hair-trigger temper. To make this part quick, there was a TON of physical, emotional and psychological abuse from him and my mom growing up. I'm seriously surprised that we're still alive or that I'm not in prison for killing him or my mom.
Thank God that asshole died in 2019 because he wouldn't have lasted through the scamdemic with all health problems.
About 3 months after he died, my mom started dating a new guy. I don't know how they met, but I instantly didn't like him when I first met him. I couldn't put my finger on it, something just seemed off about him.
My mom started spending a lot of time with him - taking weekend trips and having his family over for Thanksgiving and Christmas that year, where I found out he has 4 adult kids. Only one came with him - the legit mentality ill lady about 5 years younger than me, who has 4 kids of her own, which were all with their different dads - That's when I knew something was really wrong.
In early 2020 I asked my mom about the whole situation and told her I didn't fee comfortable around her boyfriend and his family. She got upset and we got into a huge argument. I stopped all contact with her just before covid hit in March, 2020 and went about my life. Things were good for while, I got a better job and casually dated a few chicks after the lockdowns were lifted. Nothing serious, it seems like serious relationships don't exist in the dating world anymore.
Fast forward to last December and my mom and I started talking again. I was lonely during the holidays because my 3rd GF broke up with me, and my mom said her boyfriend moved to a different state for work. I told her about my eviction appeal and she felt bad and said if anything happens that I could stay with her for a while until I get back on my feet.
By January I knew I was gonna need her help because my landlord's secretary called me about the deal my lawyer did with the landlord.
Fast forward to now & I'm staying with my mom. And she's getting really snappy with me. I work part-time because I'm disabled and get SSDI money every month. I'm a homebody and rarely go out because I'm in my 40s. My mom doesn't like it and calls me lazy and puts me down.
Yesterday we got into a huge fight. She keeps repeating herself when she argues.
I told her that I won't talk to her unless she talks to me like a sane person without an attitude.
She finally broke down and told me that she's gonna have her boyfriend move in soon because his job in another state is almost over and he's gonna need a place to live while he looks for work here.
I lost my shit. Started screaming that she's choosing her boyfriend over her own child like she did all the time with her abusive Nam Vet husband while I was growing up. She hasn't fucking changed.
I told her that I never had a mother growing up and that's all I wanted.
She snapped back and threatened to call the cops on me for raising my voice in her home and she'll tell them that I'm not welcomed there anymore - It's happened to me when I was a teen.
Then I asked her why couldn't her boyfriend get his own apartment? If he's coming home from a completed job in another state, then he should have plenty of money to find an apartment - Why do I have to move just so he can move in? Plus he has 4 kids - Why can't he stay with them if he needs to get back on his feet.
Then I asked her if he was in jail and she did one of those little nervous "No" chuckles and that's when I knew THAT was it.
THIS IS WHERE IT GETS SPICY!!!I did some digging around in the basement and found an old empty prescription pill bottle that had her boyfriend's name on it, so I looked up his name in our state's jail and prison records and....
THE MOTHERFUCKING PIECE OF SHIT IS IN PRISON FOR POSSESSION OF 8 COUNTS OF CHILD PORN. NOT ONLY THAT, HIS CASE DELAYED A HUGE FUCKING NATIONALLY KNOWN TRIAL BECAUSE HE HAD THE SAME JUDGE!
I couldn't fucking believe it.
Now, my mom doesn't know that I know about all this, but NOW I'm REALLY fucking furious and scared for her well-being if she actually lets this piece of fuckin shit pedo into her house.
What the actual fuck do I say?
How do go about approaching this without my mom flipping out on me and calling the cops because I know the truth?
What about my dumbfuck lawyer? Do I have grounds to sue him for doing a deal with my landlord behind my back and forcing me to take the deal to lighten his workload?
I'm going through so much emotional turmoil.
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[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 1582464 0 points 1.2 yearsMar 10, 2024 16:43:17 ago (+0/-0)*
[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 5717320 0 points 1.2 yearsMar 10, 2024 15:00:53 ago (+0/-0)
If you're a woman forget all that advice because women are f**** crazy and never take responsibility for anything well that's not actually true a hell of a lot of them go out there and just do what's necessary would just get a job and pay their bills.
In any case forget all the emotional stuff it's ridiculous. Be thankful you've got somebody who'll let you live with them for rent free. Save the money get the job. Your mom gets to live her own life.
She raised you she kept you fed whatever she had to do she did. You have absolutely no right to criticize her at all get off your f**** ass.
[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 2941437 1 point 1.2 yearsMar 10, 2024 13:27:59 ago (+1/-0)
1) select a good solid pair of shoes/boots.
2) select a good solid set of clothes.
3) select a good solid duffel. a miliary rucksack is an excellent choice.
4) get a pocket bible, and a couple other books on philosophy or classics on subjects that interest you.
5) if you have a small portable device, grab it or get one. a handheld radio is a smart choice too.
6) socks and underwear. a weeks worth. solid, warm, durable.
7)grab personal hygene stuff. razors, toothbrush, etc.
8) take all of your junk and sell it just to get rid of it. select your treasures, put them in a box, and ask someone you trust to hold them for you for a few years.
9) walk away. someone you love and are dependent on has chosen an actual pedophile over you. walk out the door and never return. you're a dependent of the state and a pedo sympathizer. you done fucked up.
10) its actually a bonus if you don't have a car. its just something else to worry about. you can ride the rails, sleep in barns, day labor. you have no right to choose, you stopped providing for yourself years ago. you will bve grateful to have a barn to sleep in.
11) before long, you will meet people and find that millions of other people are in your exact same position. meet them. talk with them. build your own communities with them. be useful and dont bitch. good luck to you.
[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 3047784 1 point 1.2 yearsMar 10, 2024 10:53:54 ago (+1/-0)
You have one problem and only one. Finding an apartment. Instead of focusing on that you're wasting YOUR time trying to walk around inside a woman's head who does not want to be your family. Yes she's fucked up and you're not going to change that. Nobody is.
Even if she had no designs on any man, you wouldn't live with her and live peacefully. Stop giving a shit about what words come out of her mouth.
[ + ] anon
[ - ] anon 2571595 0 points 1.2 yearsMar 10, 2024 12:42:55 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 2900788 1 point 1.2 yearsMar 10, 2024 08:43:36 ago (+1/-0)
[ + ] Anus_Expander
[ - ] Anus_Expander 0 points 1.2 yearsMar 10, 2024 08:38:59 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 3069219 3 points 1.2 yearsMar 10, 2024 08:04:02 ago (+3/-0)
Fail... Imagine you are a lower class woman with child, what dream for kiddos future? 40Y/O disabled boy man to live in your home and cramp style? Why isn't she invited to your sprawling estate with split rail fencing and equestrian stables? Dream for her child was not what is. Sorry, having a perceived miserable failure shoved in her face daily is pain.
GF? You? Why? For recreational sex? To clean up after you? You don't have to be with anyone- break the programming.
So many random problems just fall on your head, should probably check the person in the mirror.
Jabroni, know your damn role. At least be kind.
Fast and pray.
[ + ] dirtywhiteboy
[ - ] dirtywhiteboy 6 points 1.2 yearsMar 10, 2024 07:47:34 ago (+6/-0)
[ + ] bobdole9
[ - ] bobdole9 2 points 1.2 yearsMar 10, 2024 08:32:23 ago (+2/-0)
Not sure how much rent was, but should be enough to cover a vehicle.
Fairly certain mom knows what she's getting into.
[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 3586927 0 points 1.2 yearsMar 10, 2024 07:27:52 ago (+0/-0)
Does she know about the porn? Or she knows and doesn't care? Your mom's boyfriend might even be dangerous.
I have no advice to offer save to say tread carefully around him. I hope you get things sorted and your life gets back on track.
[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 2116558 3 points 1.2 yearsMar 10, 2024 07:24:32 ago (+3/-0)*
Been noticing the gimps getting together more lately. Find a woman that is also disabled and betwixt you both you can live semi-comfortably. There are housing programs for disabled people have you tried applying? Find a woman with a kid and it's an automatic in.
As for your mother, what would you have done if she wasn't around during your eviction? She's useless pretend she's not an option because she isn't one. Her well-being is not your concern.
Just saw screenshot - Gross, thats the best she could pull?
[ + ]anon
[ - ] anon 2689184 0 points 1.2 yearsMar 10, 2024 07:15:56 ago (+0/-0)*
Your laywer cannot make any deals without asking for your approval first. This is illegal. If you sue him, he can lose his licence, or even end up in jail for malpractice. I think he will pay you good money to let him stay clean.
[ + ] TheBigGuyFromQueens
[ - ] TheBigGuyFromQueens 3 points 1.2 yearsMar 10, 2024 07:05:32 ago (+3/-0)