I have a studio apartment and thus no room to put her up. Last year, I tried to buy us both a 2BR condo in Pittsburgh, but she sold out on me at the last minute and I lost my good faith deposit. For the best. I don’t want to be tied to America. I am going abroad in 3-4 years and am suggesting she does the same. Her family is dead except for a nephew and a niece, her husband is dead and she no longer talks to my father’s side of the family, so she isn’t deeply rooted to NY.
I sent her this email:
Mom:
I was thinking about our brief conversation regarding your finances. You had mentioned going to Social Services, which I had emailed you about last year. I looked online and apparently, the office is in Uniondale. I can tell you from my own experiences in my 20’s trying to get benefits for a brief time that these people are fucking nasty and are only concerned with servicing people who look like them. No matter how polite and cordial you are to them, they will likely be nasty to you and will look to passively or even actively undermine your applications. They’re real pieces of shit (some racist—and not civilly racist like me where they’re able to put their philosophies aside to be fair) who are emboldened by having the safety net of a government job. I looked online at the reviews and they’re terrible.
I would say that if you think you’re going to go that route, then get down there soon, because you’re a White citizen and you will be low priority contrasted against Blacks and particularly illegal aliens. Get down there so you can have a baseline/understanding of what needs to be done and perhaps get paperwork rolling on shit that may take 6 months to 2 years to get approved. You don’t want to be at the mercy of these people when you really have no resources. Also: Do your own research before you go down there so you’re armed with more knowledge and they can’t screw you over as much as someone completely ignorant of the system.
The best solution, IMO, is to preserve your dignity and your remaining wealth and go somewhere else. You really get more bang for your buck in another country, but you can maybe stay in America and go to like Western Pennsylvania. You can downsize to a 1BR apartment and pay like $1150 a month. Your Social Security benefits will go so much further and you will likely be treated better by Social Services there. Everything else will likely be a little cheaper as well: Food, Cable, Etc.. You can maybe take your remaining funds and buy yourself a little place before you spend down everything. Then, you’ll only pay a maintenance fee of $200-$600 a month which would leave you a lot of money from Social Security left over depending on the size of the place you get. I’d imagine at this point with the funds you presently have that you’d only be able to buy a studio or 1BR, but for you that is fine. You could probably get a studio out there for $90K and a 1BR for like $140K.
If I were you, I’d just go to another country. You can live like a queen relative to here for just $750-$850 a month. Full luxury condo. Gym, pool, doorman, security, on-site shopping, trains nearby, botanical gardens, etc. Look in South America, look in Asia. Places without Communism and where they don’t kill Americans and Whites. Paraguay, Chile, Argentina, Ecuador, Uruguay, Thailand, Cambodia Malaysia, Philippines….all cheaper than cheap than states in the U.S..
[ + ] con77
[ - ] con77 1 point 4 monthsJan 9, 2025 13:35:56 ago (+1/-0)
edit: theres a ton of resorts down here youre probably qualified to work at. less money but no city or state taxes! can you drive?
When she passes away the condo reverts to the company.
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[ + ] bobdole9
[ - ] bobdole9 4 points 4 monthsJan 4, 2025 07:57:50 ago (+4/-0)
What are your / her requirements for acceptable locations?
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[ + ] observation1
[ - ] observation1 4 points 4 monthsJan 4, 2025 05:12:34 ago (+4/-0)
She raised you. You get your ass down there and you fill that fucking paperwork out. And then you do it again. Make the calls for low income. There's programs in every state.
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[ + ] TheBigGuyFromQueens
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This will be the 3rd of 4th time that I am explaining this, so I’m going to keep it to like 2 sentences:
Last year, several people on here suggested I set up a Venmo or a Paypal because they liked some content I was making. I didn’t do that right away. A couple of months later, I did. In an entirely separate set of posts, I revealed that I was going to be dealing with a medical issue that I would be paying out of pocket for. Not once did I do a GoFundMe style sob story saying people should send me money for that. The post where I linked my PayPal was beforehand and discussed how I was requested to do so.
[ + ] Gowithit
[ - ] Gowithit 2 points 4 monthsJan 4, 2025 09:43:33 ago (+2/-0)
It would be great if she would join you wherever you are going. waiting for an apartment through social services might drive her to change her mind They will have her take a class where some nigger will have a power trip and she'll have to suck that up just to get on a list to then wait.
Whole process takes almost two years and thats with being pushed up front if she has a "disability".
Good luck, I know you tried.
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[ + ] pickingrinninspittin
[ - ] pickingrinninspittin 2 points 4 monthsJan 4, 2025 08:08:05 ago (+2/-0)*
My point being that the best approach may be to take a back seat and wait until everything blows up, then step in to make the hard decisions for her. It's hardly an ideal choice but there's a good chance this is what's going to happen regardless, so you might as well take it easy on yourself.
Dave Barry wrote a short piece about what it was like after his father died and his mother was at loose ends. About how frustrating it was for him because he just "wanted to help" her but nothing he did made it better. It really helped me put things into perspective when I went through much the same with my parents years later.
[edit] here it is https://www.davebarry.com/gg/lostinamerica.html
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I feel better now.
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[ - ] Sal_180 -3 points 4 monthsJan 4, 2025 05:55:42 ago (+1/-4)
Renting is shit. Buy a house, not a condo. Renting is dead money.
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