He had a massive heart attack. 65 years old. My mother called me while the EMTs were in the process of attempted resuscitation. Unfortunately, they were unable to save him and he was declared dead.
I admit, I am still in shock and unable to fully come to terms with what has just happened. I love my father dearly, in spite of his flaws, much as he loved me the same. But I also love and admire him for his intelligence, his insightfulness, his resourcefulness, his fiendish charm, his irl shitposting. I was not ready for him to go this suddenly.
He faced a lot of demons of addiction in his youth and overcame them to have a family and land all his own. He was a force of will and fiercely protective of his people and possessions. He was a real man who lived a rough, honest life. Tackled every challenge put in his way unwaveringly: a true goat in spirit.
In his words: "What? When something bad happens to you, are you just going to roll up in a ball and die? Fuck that! Man up!"
you have my full condolences and deepest sympathies. i'm in fear for the day i lost both of my parents i just dont know what i would do without them. even as middle aged man they are still pretty important to me.
but i know that that fateful day will come one day and i just hope to be prepped to handle it.
anyhow, if you need more support you have us here. may he rest in peace
Your dad sounds like a solid dude. I'm happy for you that you got to have a dad like that.
Lost my dad this year too. I take comfort knowing he's with the Lord and his other family that went before him.
"Then Abraham gave up the ghost, and died in a good old age, an old man, and full of years; and was gathered to his people."
My dad was a kind soul, he'd had a lot of hurt in his life, his father was a hard man and his mother died young, he lost his brother to suicide, his first wife to cancer, his firstborn died tragically and young so "and was gathered to his people" really helped him when he knew his time was short.
What? When something bad happens to you, are you just going to roll up in a ball and die? Fuck that! Man up!"
Oyyyyyy Veyyyy fighting back is anti semetic and also hate speech!! Jess Lettuce continue to shit on what's left of your freedoms daily until you have none left!! Are we nawt entuhtainink you wit yiddish degenerate programming?! Kvetch!!
Take your vitamin C boys. Heart disease is just scurvy-lite over time. That's what the nobel prize winning chemist Linus Pauling said. As a side not, Linus Torvalds, the creator of linux, was named after Linus Pauling.
My old man was a Linus Pauling disciple. He religiously took vitamin C every day with his black tea sweetened with honey. He was always a blue collar worker and got plently of vitamin D from sunlight, which he also stressed was vital. To his credit, he was almost never sick, despite being a lifelong smoker and smoking close to two packs of cigarettes a day. I suppose the smoking is what probably caused his heart to go out. The one addiction he could never quite beat.
He was an avid rense.com, drudge report, etc reader (especially back in the 2000s-2010s before a lot of those sites got coopted). Gained a lot of valuable knowledge from alternative news sources.
I'll very much be missing all of the valuable knowledge he gathered from dusty corners of the internet.
Yeah, smokers have to take even more vitamin C. He probably wasn't getting nearly enough. Now I'm not 100 percent certain of the vitamin C theory but it makes a lot of sense and taking 2000-4000mg of ascorbic acid (vit c) a day doesn't hurt in any way especially if you spread it out as you should.
It is a proven fact that smokers have less vit C in their blood streams. Really odd if you think about it that smoking would consume vit C in some way. There is definitely something funny going on with Vit C in the human body.
I lost mine slowly over a year, long hard painful death, I got to say all my goodbyes and he got to say his, you did not get that.
My mother (still his wife) and I did not have a real relationship. On his deathbed he asked me to "not look after my mother" because he knows she did not deserve help from me but to "look after his wife".... FUCKER knew what to say. I will say me and my mother have gotten better once I realized all women are children and should have never expected her to make honorable decisions like a man would it helped. None of this may apply to you but honor his choices even in his death.
I'm not religious at all and don't believe in an afterlife BUT on the off .00001% chance there is one I refuse to meet my father again and not have done as he asked.
Fuck I hate to see the day this happens to my Dad. He's the same age and his lungs are heavily in decline. My condolences and I hope you find peace sometime in the future whenever you're ready.
Sorry to here that, mate... Spend as much time as you can with him, and learn as much from him as you can while you still have him around to provide guidance! And thank you for the kind words. Much appreciated.
My old man passed suddenly 3 years ago. It was devastating to the entire family. Only advice I can offer is let yourself mourn. Fighting the pain just prolonged the agony. My condolences to you and your family. Honor his memory and be the man he raised you to be. R.I.P. to all the old Men who earned it
I'm sorry for your loss. My father was very much the same way, he wasn't perfect but he was a good man and an awesome father. Lost to pancreatic cancer about ten years ago. We found out about the cancer the day after Thanksgiving and he died in new years day. Miss him a lot, could really use his advice right now.
It gets easier though. Take the time you need to process it. Don't go losing your mind and your job like I did at the time. Be there for the people that need you, you need them too wether you know it or not.
It's a tough time, but take solace in the fact that you were close enough to your dad to not have regrets. I'm an older guy and my dad passed a couple years back. He left this old rock with no one by his side and nothing but regrets. He was a cruel, delusional, manipulative and abusive psychopath. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think about the long trail of wreckage that he left in his wake. My mother wasn't much better, but at least she tried to some extent to be a decent human being. My old man was basically rotten to the core.
He was a force of will and fiercely protective of his people and possessions. He was a real man who lived a rough, honest life. Tackled every challenge put in his way unwaveringly: a true goat in spirit.
Sounds like a good Man. I regret not having known him.
This would be a good time for everybody to take stock of how they are treating the people in their own lives.
My wife and I are in the habit of saying, "I love you." the very first thing when we see each other, and the very last thing just as one of us is going out, even on a minor errand, or just before sleep each night, no matter what.
Because, if, God forbid, something should happen, we both want the other to KNOW, without any doubt, that was our last thought, the very last thing we said to each other. No matter what.
I never get tired of telling my kids and grandkids how much I love them, and how proud I am of them, every chance I get. And for the same reason.
I feel woefully underprepared. He had much to teach but was short tempered and extremely difficult to work with. I regret being stubborn and hard-hearted and refusing to learn from him. So many regrets... but I must learn from my past mistakes and carry on and become the man he knew I could be.
My old man already outlived his parents (agewise), came back from lots of deadly threats and yet is still all there and ready to learn. I however fail to get through to him. He refutes the MSM and acknowledges that he's being lied to to but he can't seem to accept either the shape or the scope of it.
I tell you this because old age has a lot in common with childhood. They couldn't impart all of their wisdom and we won't be able to get across our points I fear. You just keep on making him proud.
Credit where credit is due. Good for you for not recounting your own experience of a parent's death - one of the few who didn't. This sub is about OP's dad's death and politeness dictates we pay his situation some attention. Instead we me, me, me about our own experience in this area. My ghastly mother had the knack of turning any conversation, even one about a third-party, back onto her. A conversation with her was like a competition. She couldn't wait to take the floor with some anecdote that was better than the one you were relaying. And that's my point...even if you're not really interested in someone's story, and she never was, it's polite to feign an interest before telling your own story.
I didn't feel it at first when my Dad died. total numb, but also bad.
He was 62, I feel like an ungrateful world worked him to death then threw him away. I wish I had been in a position to support him better, which he didn't even want because he didn't want me worrying about him instead of doing life. Which is precisely why I did worry, he was one of the good ones and I doubt I'll ever be as good as he was.
He liked to tell anyone without the force of law on their side "NO". Basically Walmart reciept checkers but he fuckin told em, "No." That stuck with me, because I was embarrassed, but I also understood, he would not waver for even the tiniest most meaningless thing, because it all meant something and he wasn't letting go just because you tugged on it.
I missed him later, never on time, just randomly realizing how much I cared for and miss his existence, intense but more love than pain. We all have to do this and nothing will make it better. You know they wanted us to live. Now we must, besides... we're next up.
Now we will die and leave the children. Its our turn, then they will cry and it will be their turn.
Your dad sounds very similar to mine. A man of honor and principles. Worked himself until his body broke to support my mother and me. His life was hard, and he wanted better for me. He thought I was the best man he knew, but I can only hope to be half the man he was.
May the Lord surround you with peace and love during this difficult time. May He grant you strength to carry on and comfort you with the memories you shared.
Sorry for your loss. Life is short. In a long enough timeline none of us are getting out of this shit alive. Live hard. Also, what kills our parents will likely kill us. Take care of your heart.
will back that up. from my own experience. my old man had one. that was it.
and the dude rude his pushbike to work and home daily. (as well as replaced the clutch on my 74 cortina AND fitted a stereo to my sisters mates car the night before)
You are not alone, going through it myself. I lost my dad a month and a half ago. It still feels like a gut punch when I remember he's gone. But I'm doing ok. Wishing you the best 🍺
Mine passed away at 52, i was 19, was the first day of my apprenticeship at his workplace. Got to the medical centre just as the medics stopped trying to work on him, i was the guy that made the phone calls. Couldnt ring my nana or uncle that lived with her, had to get in touch with other uncle to do it. Hell i think i was still on the phone when my mum got there, first i remember was her screaming behind me. Not fun.
My old man was a good bloke but so well missed and his funeral the absolute opposite of what im gonna get (there will be a priest and a tax man at mine, tax man will put an injunction on priest to go through my pockets before i get stuck in the ground) 300 some people at his.
It sucks but having things happen both ways, the sudden ... leaving means you dont get to say goodbye first but you dont have to watch them waste away and become a shell of a human.
If they waste away then you get to say goodbye but theres a lot else to deal with.
How you deal with it yourself is the one thing that counts, i kept going, assholes in my family just wallowed in whatever they wallowed in and spent years blaming me for their shit.
[ + ] paul_neri
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To bad he'll miss the greatest shit show in recorded history soon coming.
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[ + ] dosvydanya_freedomz
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but i know that that fateful day will come one day and i just hope to be prepped to handle it.
anyhow, if you need more support you have us here. may he rest in peace
[ + ] 1point21jiggawatts
[ - ] 1point21jiggawatts 0 points 6 monthsOct 3, 2024 11:29:37 ago (+0/-0)*
Lost my dad this year too. I take comfort knowing he's with the Lord and his other family that went before him.
"Then Abraham gave up the ghost, and died in a good old age, an old man, and full of years; and was gathered to his people."
My dad was a kind soul, he'd had a lot of hurt in his life, his father was a hard man and his mother died young, he lost his brother to suicide, his first wife to cancer, his firstborn died tragically and young so "and was gathered to his people" really helped him when he knew his time was short.
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Oyyyyyy Veyyyy fighting back is anti semetic and also hate speech!! Jess Lettuce continue to shit on what's left of your freedoms daily until you have none left!! Are we nawt entuhtainink you wit yiddish degenerate programming?! Kvetch!!
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[ + ] heebiejeebies
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He was an avid rense.com, drudge report, etc reader (especially back in the 2000s-2010s before a lot of those sites got coopted). Gained a lot of valuable knowledge from alternative news sources.
I'll very much be missing all of the valuable knowledge he gathered from dusty corners of the internet.
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[ - ] rzr97 0 points 6 monthsOct 4, 2024 13:31:10 ago (+0/-0)
It is a proven fact that smokers have less vit C in their blood streams. Really odd if you think about it that smoking would consume vit C in some way. There is definitely something funny going on with Vit C in the human body.
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[ + ] dass
[ - ] dass 0 points 6 monthsOct 3, 2024 16:17:55 ago (+0/-0)
RIP.
Peace and blessings.
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My mother (still his wife) and I did not have a real relationship. On his deathbed he asked me to "not look after my mother" because he knows she did not deserve help from me but to "look after his wife".... FUCKER knew what to say. I will say me and my mother have gotten better once I realized all women are children and should have never expected her to make honorable decisions like a man would it helped. None of this may apply to you but honor his choices even in his death.
I'm not religious at all and don't believe in an afterlife BUT on the off .00001% chance there is one I refuse to meet my father again and not have done as he asked.
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Only advice I can offer is let yourself mourn. Fighting the pain just prolonged the agony.
My condolences to you and your family. Honor his memory and be the man he raised you to be.
R.I.P. to all the old Men who earned it
[ + ] PeckerwoodPerry
[ - ] PeckerwoodPerry 2 points 6 monthsOct 3, 2024 07:28:49 ago (+2/-0)
It gets easier though. Take the time you need to process it. Don't go losing your mind and your job like I did at the time. Be there for the people that need you, you need them too wether you know it or not.
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[ + ] BulletStopper
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Sounds like a good Man. I regret not having known him.
This would be a good time for everybody to take stock of how they are treating the people in their own lives.
My wife and I are in the habit of saying, "I love you." the very first thing when we see each other, and the very last thing just as one of us is going out, even on a minor errand, or just before sleep each night, no matter what.
Because, if, God forbid, something should happen, we both want the other to KNOW, without any doubt, that was our last thought, the very last thing we said to each other. No matter what.
I never get tired of telling my kids and grandkids how much I love them, and how proud I am of them, every chance I get. And for the same reason.
To leave no doubts behind me.
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All you can do is be a good legacy by being true to yourself.
Now you are the learned elder and that's quite a shock.
Nothing makes you mature faster than when your parents pass away.
[ + ] heebiejeebies
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[ + ] jerkofalltrades
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My old man already outlived his parents (agewise), came back from lots of deadly threats and yet is still all there and ready to learn. I however fail to get through to him. He refutes the MSM and acknowledges that he's being lied to to but he can't seem to accept either the shape or the scope of it.
I tell you this because old age has a lot in common with childhood. They couldn't impart all of their wisdom and we won't be able to get across our points I fear. You just keep on making him proud.
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[ + ] puremadness
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total numb, but also bad.
He was 62, I feel like an ungrateful world worked him to death then threw him away.
I wish I had been in a position to support him better, which he didn't even want because he didn't want me worrying about him instead of doing life. Which is precisely why I did worry, he was one of the good ones and I doubt I'll ever be as good as he was.
He liked to tell anyone without the force of law on their side "NO".
Basically Walmart reciept checkers but he fuckin told em, "No."
That stuck with me, because I was embarrassed, but I also understood, he would not waver for even the tiniest most meaningless thing, because it all meant something and he wasn't letting go just because you tugged on it.
I missed him later, never on time, just randomly realizing how much I cared for and miss his existence, intense but more love than pain. We all have to do this and nothing will make it better. You know they wanted us to live. Now we must, besides... we're next up.
Now we will die and leave the children. Its our turn, then they will cry and it will be their turn.
[ + ] heebiejeebies
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[ + ] paul_neri
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Which is why life is daft and folk shouldn't breed and perpetuate the daftness.
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[ + ] Cantaloupe
[ - ] Cantaloupe 10 points 6 monthsOct 3, 2024 01:59:24 ago (+10/-0)
Amen.
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[ + ] ProudRebel
[ - ] ProudRebel 11 points 6 monthsOct 3, 2024 07:04:46 ago (+11/-0)
Life is short. In a long enough timeline none of us are getting out of this shit alive. Live hard.
Also, what kills our parents will likely kill us. Take care of your heart.
[ + ] PostWallHelena
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^this faggots
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and the dude rude his pushbike to work and home daily. (as well as replaced the clutch on my 74 cortina AND fitted a stereo to my sisters mates car the night before)
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[ + ] i_scream_trucks
[ - ] i_scream_trucks 18 points 6 monthsOct 3, 2024 01:56:07 ago (+18/-0)
Mine passed away at 52, i was 19, was the first day of my apprenticeship at his workplace. Got to the medical centre just as the medics stopped trying to work on him, i was the guy that made the phone calls. Couldnt ring my nana or uncle that lived with her, had to get in touch with other uncle to do it. Hell i think i was still on the phone when my mum got there, first i remember was her screaming behind me. Not fun.
My old man was a good bloke but so well missed and his funeral the absolute opposite of what im gonna get (there will be a priest and a tax man at mine, tax man will put an injunction on priest to go through my pockets before i get stuck in the ground) 300 some people at his.
It sucks but having things happen both ways, the sudden ... leaving means you dont get to say goodbye first but you dont have to watch them waste away and become a shell of a human.
If they waste away then you get to say goodbye but theres a lot else to deal with.
How you deal with it yourself is the one thing that counts, i kept going, assholes in my family just wallowed in whatever they wallowed in and spent years blaming me for their shit.
My thoughts and prayers go out to you.