Probably just do one a week I like going to. Don't really enjoy drinking anymore, but I'm falling into a rut of picking up a four loko or twisted tea for a light buzz.
Say what you will about it but I like em, lost touch with too many people, and probably be good to network and find a better job
God bless you, friend. Alcohol abstention is a matter of discretion for some. If you don't think it's good then it's not and you've made a good call. No need to feel self conscious. Good luck and I hope you make some good acquaintances.
It was an old movie called something like the producer or something. And in it I guess talking in a Hollywood producers office and he says he's going to the AA meetings and the other guy says I didn't know you had a drinking problem and he said oh I don't have a drinking problem but it's where all the deals are being done these days.
Hey whatever works. I tried AA but it did nothing for me personally, though it was humbling to see what other people were faced with on a daily basis. Seriously the depth of character that some of these guys displayed was a revelation, especially when it occurred to me that if I knew them while they were still on the sauce I would have had nothing but contempt for them.
But even with AA I could see no reason to stop drinking. I liked being drunk.
Then one day I stopped enjoying drinking. Don't ask me what button got flipped but man it was the best day of my freaking life. It's been 18 or so months and I haven't wanted to drink once. 20 years of my life down the toilet. How my wife stayed is beyond me. And I'll never get the relationship with my kids back.
So yeah, leverage the "I don't really enjoy drinking anymore" and turn the corner. If AA helps you then do it! Your life starts to improve almost immediately, though it takes time for it to sink in. All the best.
Yep, that's how it works usually. I wasn't a drinker, but i don't want to drink at all anymore, because i saw too many immediate negatives. I got too tired too quickly and i want to think great things and alcohol interferes with that.
There's some great AA meetings and content online. I'm going thru some shit rn so I'm going a lot. It helps. The thing about aa for me is there are some assholes and bible thumpers but there's also cool people and pretty girls. Sometimes I go just to hang with friends and look for women. True story. I'm years sober by the way. It's okay to just take away what you want or need. Good luck! Maybe look at some of this.
Right off the bat they tell you that you need to admit you are powerless and that giving yourself to a higher power is the only solution.
The real solution to addiction and self-destructive behavior is to figure out and confront the trauma that's causing you to self-soothe and self-medicate with drugs/alcohol/porn/gambling/sex/food/video games/etc.
Therapy might help. It might not. It's hard finding the right match.
Maybe find a good social group. Bowling, board games, fantasy niggerball... something to establish social connections, develop positive habits, and reduce dependence on alcohol or other substances.
It won't be easy but you can do it. Good luck.
edit - see how someone downvoted you? They don't want you to get better and conquer your demons. They just want you to join their cult via AA.
That sounds like a good start. Get busy, stay active, and build good habits. As you know you'll be around alcohol at social events like baseball or softball leagues, so be mindful of that and focus on self-control.
edit - what's with all the deleted replies? I didn't refresh until now so I don't know what they said.
Sometimes messages duplicate and I turned anon off I guess? Not that I care really... But yeah, certainly having trouble being a recluse lately. Need to cut back on smoking pot too, but that's a separate thing for now. I was extremely occasional when I drank
It's not that I've lost my sense of irony. There is no irony to detect here.
Unless you are one of those people who think everything is irony. In which case, you should go hang out with Alanis Morissette. You can pretend everything is ironic together.
[ + ] Trope
[ - ] Trope 1 point 8 monthsAug 26, 2024 00:29:53 ago (+1/-0)
As you said: network and find a better job. Start devoting mental energy towards this.
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[ - ] anon 1010910 -1 points 8 monthsAug 25, 2024 15:38:40 ago (+0/-1)
I havent touched those nasty things in years, but 1 would fuck me up.
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[ - ] anon 2281313 3 points 8 monthsAug 25, 2024 15:08:17 ago (+4/-1)
But even with AA I could see no reason to stop drinking. I liked being drunk.
Then one day I stopped enjoying drinking. Don't ask me what button got flipped but man it was the best day of my freaking life. It's been 18 or so months and I haven't wanted to drink once. 20 years of my life down the toilet. How my wife stayed is beyond me. And I'll never get the relationship with my kids back.
So yeah, leverage the "I don't really enjoy drinking anymore" and turn the corner. If AA helps you then do it! Your life starts to improve almost immediately, though it takes time for it to sink in. All the best.
[ + ] PotatoWhisperer2
[ - ] PotatoWhisperer2 3 points 8 monthsAug 25, 2024 17:33:09 ago (+3/-0)
It causes severe heart/liver/lung problems (not that much)later in life that don't go away and will likely be your cause of death if you don't stop.
That's the reason.
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[ - ] anon 8338073 -1 points 8 monthsAug 25, 2024 14:56:06 ago (+0/-1)
Maybe look at some of this.
https://www.aa.org/the-big-book
https://paintedbrain.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/As-Bill-Sees-It.pdf
https://www.164andbeyond.org/
https://silkworth.net/
If the neverending God talk pisses you off:
https://aa-intergroup.org/meetings/?tags=Secular
https://www.worldwidesecularmeetings.com/meetings
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Right off the bat they tell you that you need to admit you are powerless and that giving yourself to a higher power is the only solution.
The real solution to addiction and self-destructive behavior is to figure out and confront the trauma that's causing you to self-soothe and self-medicate with drugs/alcohol/porn/gambling/sex/food/video games/etc.
[ + ] anon
[ - ] anon 1456258 [op] 0 points 8 monthsAug 25, 2024 14:57:00 ago (+1/-1)
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Maybe find a good social group. Bowling, board games, fantasy niggerball... something to establish social connections, develop positive habits, and reduce dependence on alcohol or other substances.
It won't be easy but you can do it. Good luck.
edit - see how someone downvoted you? They don't want you to get better and conquer your demons. They just want you to join their cult via AA.
[ + ] anon
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edit - what's with all the deleted replies? I didn't refresh until now so I don't know what they said.
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[ - ] anon 4237020 -1 points 8 monthsAug 25, 2024 15:06:31 ago (+1/-2)
Sorry that makes you feel so insecure.
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[ - ] Master_Foo 0 points 8 monthsAug 25, 2024 19:54:36 ago (+0/-0)
There is no irony to detect here.
Unless you are one of those people who think everything is irony.
In which case, you should go hang out with Alanis Morissette.
You can pretend everything is ironic together.
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