I feel ya. Had to put mine down 2 years ago. It took me a year before I was ready for another, and even then it was because there was still a dog-shaped hole in my heart.
The new dog isn't there to replace the old one, but to continue the legacy of good boys.
I always maintain a pack of 4 to 5 Australian Shepherds, going back 30 years. I’ve got 10 urns on my mantle. Feeling bad when they’re gone doesn’t outweigh the years of joy from having them around. Getting a new dog, it feels bad at first, like you’re replacing them. But really, you’re giving a dog a home. Take lots of pictures of them, some of my past dogs, I don’t have a photo. I wish I did.
What if you found out your friends were down on Earth still being good to the very end for other people? I think the truth is going to be really humbling for us to find out.
That being said, I have said such things many times. I’ll ask for a return trip as long as my friends are fighting the good fight.
When I was four years old I wandered away from my aunt's house on Strawberry Road, and went down to look at the Coal River.
The riverbank collapsed under me, and I fell in the river and drowned.
My mother had noticed my absence and came looking for me. Using the artificial resucitation training that she had recieved as a girl at the YWCA, she revived me.
I had been technically dead for about four minutes.
And that's why nothing has ever been able to scare me since. I've already seen what comes next.
So don't worry. Everything is going to be just fine.
I don't remember a "curtain". One moment I was looking up from the bottom of the river at the sunlight shining on the surface of the water up above me, and trying to reach up for it, and my chest hurt, and I got tired and closed my eyes. And the next moment, just in the blink of an eye, my point of view was up in the air, above the river, looking down.
What I will tell you was that what I saw off in the distance was something wonderful, that made me not want to come back. I could see my body and my mother on the river bank. There was someone else there near me who made it clear that, while I still had a choice, it was a limited time offer and that I would have to decide soon. I could stay here or move on to that wonderful place I could just make out in the distance. But my mother was crying so hard it hurt and the only way I could get her to stop was to stay. So I stayed. I opened my eyes and I was back in my body again.
That's not all that I saw but I have only ever felt comfortable discussing the details of what happened, and who, and what I saw that day with one person, so that's all I'm going to say about that for now.
I took her to the exact spot where it happened (it's still there) and then I told her everything. And that was only after we had been married for about 10 years, and only because she had seen something and told me about it first. That's how I knew it was time, because now it would make sense to her.
I have never had a NDE myself, so I can very well be talking out of turn. Thank you for sharing as much as you have; many choose to never talk about their experiences at all.
Good to know you were able to have a "positive" experience, whereas the other two of the three main NDEs are "absolute nothing" and apparently "a preview to Hell".
My mom's father and brother had NDEs...grandpa had an experience like yours while uncle had a preview to Hell apparently.
I had to put a bullet in my chihuahua because he was bleeding to death from his mouth at 1am. Buried him out back, made him a nice cross and took the next 2 weeks off work. He stopped a home invasion last year. It felt like my home security died on me and it's still makes me sad.
Never expected that. I used to think they were noisy annoying dogs until I lived a year in a house with two. I was wrong, and they don't bark all the time either.
Mine was a champion bloodline who was too smart for his own good. I woke up to his barking at 11pm and groggily told him to shut up and then I hear a voice outside my window say clear as day "oh fuck, there's dogs". Then I found a men's ugg boot print in the snow thr next morning. I only know because I posted picture of the print on here and somebody knew what it was. https://www.voat.xyz/viewpost?postid=63f90b9a44a15
Lol. A good boy never dies. You've already let him into your heart.
When you're ready, get another one.
Until then, celebrate the one that you had. And realize that, for a brief moment, you're now free to open that drawer in the refrigerator without feeling hassled to get him something to eat.
Very, very sorry to hear that. It is gut wretching to do. Totally understand where you're at. Never thought i would own another dog and never thought I'd get over the one i had to put down. One day at a time.
I understand that you are sad now. Your life feels diminished by his absence. Not having a dog deprives both you and a gud doge of a life of love and companionship. Your doge would not want that for you.
Both benefit from the relationship. Hoomans and doges are both happier and healthier for it. A boon companion and loyal protector.
Gud hoomans are hard to come by. Right now there is gud doge out there somewhere waiting for a gud hooman to love and be happy with. You should at least try to let him find you.
You seem to be laboring under the misunderstanding that I give even one microscopic scintilla of a shit what you think, and that, feeling duly chastised, will somehow amend my writing, spelling or behavior in some way so as to be more pleasing to you.
I can assure you, with utmost certainty, that I will not. Every person who has ever made a serious attempt to do so in the past at least had the common courtesy to point a weapon at me while doing so. They were equally unsuccesful. Some did not survive the attempt.
The very next time you feel the uncontrollable urge to attempt to criticize, correct, or chastize any feature or facet of my writing or behavior, go outside, find a barrel cactus, drop your pants, bend over and do jump squats over it until either the urge passes or you bleed out.
Sorry to hear you, man. I get what you mean about not wanting to have another; my last two dogs died 15 and 16yrs ago, and I have not had another since.
Condolences. I hope you find another dog soon to plug the hole in your soul. It will not be a replacement, just a new friend. Your deceased pet would want you to move on.
My condolences. I can tell you its rough then next few months. Getting another dog in some time is the best thing for you. I lost my friend in May, New Years day, another found his way to me. I miss my friend but I made a new one. I will be thinking about you, these days are rough. Its not fair they live a short time and give so much love.
Grief is the worst emotion a man can endure. There is no avoiding it or finding a short cut to it. Seemingly only time can help, and even then the pain is there forever. It's just at a more manageable, background level.
If it is genuine grief you are enduring than my heart goes out to you. Every trauma counsellor I've spoken to has always had the same message so I can save you some time. To enable your brain to start dealing with the terrible news and new reality it now finds itself in, stimulate the grieving process by doing something creative in tribute to your loved one. If you draw or paint or play the guitar then really express your feelings about them through that medium. If you're not visually or musically gifted then even a bad poem, free style verse or a letter on what they really meant to you can help the parts of your subconscious brain help process your trauma.
It's theorized this technique gives the non logical part of our cerebral cortex the factual finality to begin assisting the logical part in processing our feelings. And something like eight out of ten people who've tried this says it really helped. If you are struggling to process your feelings this may be a good way to begin to address them.
Take care my man. The passage of time will help you contextualize what you're feeling now. Try to use that time as productively as you can and find the space to heal.
I'm sorry to hear that, I hope you get through it ok. Dogs have a special place in our hearts for a reason, especially if he was enough to make you post here.
After so many, I'm ready to have no more after my current one of gets too old.
I can sympathize. The next one will have its own personality. It will never be a replacement. It will be a different best friend. Our dog that passed away a couple years ago was the first one that specifically bonded with me- a rescue we had for 10 years. Ended up blind from diabetes, but happy as a clam. It was rough, I held it as it passed. I didn’t have a dog as a kid because we moved around quite a bit.. I happenstance found a rescue that hasn’t been loved before and needed our loving home. I think our last dog guided this one to us because of the love we give. The Lord works in mysterious ways.
I would like to consider the following idea. There are thousands ... millions? ... of dogs out there that need a great dog owner like you. Someone that could save them from some nigger owning them. So much more justice would come of you bringing in another dog. Maybe your grief can be the power that brings another dog love that wouldn't have gotten it?
Rescuing is a dumb fable people use to justify their child surrogates. Most dogs are bred to be sold. Many of those dogs aren't fit to be sold but adopting them anyway makes them a discount bin buy, not a rescue.
If you want a real rescue, good luck dealing with the crazy pit bulls no one wants.
Don't get me wrong. Dogs are great. But cut the baby talk and fairy tales. And have less dogs and more kids.
Oh thats shitty. Im sorry man. I know you say you will never get another dog but remember its also a chance to give another dog a happy life and a good home as you did for your dog.
That’s what sucks about pets. You outlive them all. They become your family and then leave too early. That’s why my grandparents won’t have another dog. He said it’s like having a child that eventually breaks your heart.
[ - ] CHIRO 1 point 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 01:17:17 ago (+1/-0)
My sympathies, buddy. That's one of the rougher things we'll go through. There's nothing we can say to lighten the load; only time helps. God willing, memories of your late friend will become painless soon enough.
yeah my sister had to put down one of our dogs because if illness. terrible experience
then i saw my own dog die of old age, struggling to gasp for air until his last minutes. again, terrible experience and because of that no more dogs in this house. also my old man is allergic to fur.
my niece and nephew wants one but so far we have told them a big nope.
instead they have lizards and turtles for mascots lol
I'm so sorry. I had to let my good girl go about three months. I still miss her and think of her every day. She was my dad's dog, and it made him so happy that I said when he passed, she was going to live with me. She was the last real thing in my life that reminded me of my dad, and now she's gone. I'm old, and I seriously question whether I'll get another dog. It just hurts too much when they're gone.
I know it feels like that now, but the truth is that the thing that helps fill the hurt hole is another dog. Don't rush, but just know that a new good boy is just what you need to soothe the soul
[ + ] PotatoWhisperer2
[ - ] PotatoWhisperer2 20 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 20:38:31 ago (+20/-0)
The new dog isn't there to replace the old one, but to continue the legacy of good boys.
May god hold him in his heart.
[ + ] PearofAnguishJuniorManager
[ - ] PearofAnguishJuniorManager 15 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 20:45:48 ago (+15/-0)*
[ + ] BulletStopper
[ - ] BulletStopper 7 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 21:11:54 ago (+7/-0)*
And a yellow lab.
If all my friends aren't waiting for me in heaven so we can be a pack again, then I ain't goin'.
[ + ] BoraxTheFungarian
[ - ] BoraxTheFungarian 6 points 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 00:52:01 ago (+6/-0)
That being said, I have said such things many times. I’ll ask for a return trip as long as my friends are fighting the good fight.
[ + ] BulletStopper
[ - ] BulletStopper 5 points 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 02:51:23 ago (+5/-0)
The riverbank collapsed under me, and I fell in the river and drowned.
My mother had noticed my absence and came looking for me. Using the artificial resucitation training that she had recieved as a girl at the YWCA, she revived me.
I had been technically dead for about four minutes.
And that's why nothing has ever been able to scare me since. I've already seen what comes next.
So don't worry. Everything is going to be just fine.
[ + ] bobdole9
[ - ] bobdole9 3 points 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 08:08:46 ago (+3/-0)
[ + ] BulletStopper
[ - ] BulletStopper 6 points 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 08:52:18 ago (+6/-0)
What I will tell you was that what I saw off in the distance was something wonderful, that made me not want to come back. I could see my body and my mother on the river bank. There was someone else there near me who made it clear that, while I still had a choice, it was a limited time offer and that I would have to decide soon. I could stay here or move on to that wonderful place I could just make out in the distance. But my mother was crying so hard it hurt and the only way I could get her to stop was to stay. So I stayed. I opened my eyes and I was back in my body again.
That's not all that I saw but I have only ever felt comfortable discussing the details of what happened, and who, and what I saw that day with one person, so that's all I'm going to say about that for now.
I took her to the exact spot where it happened (it's still there) and then I told her everything. And that was only after we had been married for about 10 years, and only because she had seen something and told me about it first. That's how I knew it was time, because now it would make sense to her.
[ + ] bobdole9
[ - ] bobdole9 3 points 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 09:16:55 ago (+3/-0)
Good to know you were able to have a "positive" experience, whereas the other two of the three main NDEs are "absolute nothing" and apparently "a preview to Hell".
My mom's father and brother had NDEs...grandpa had an experience like yours while uncle had a preview to Hell apparently.
[ + ] BulletStopper
[ - ] BulletStopper 3 points 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 09:28:18 ago (+3/-0)
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[ - ] fnbs 13 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 20:27:26 ago (+13/-0)
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[ - ] NoRefunds [op] 10 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 20:29:50 ago (+10/-0)
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[ + ] NoRefunds
[ - ] NoRefunds [op] 2 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 21:54:27 ago (+2/-0)
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[ - ] FreeinTX 2 points 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 06:35:34 ago (+2/-0)
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[ - ] Breeder 10 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 21:22:50 ago (+10/-0)
[ + ] Prairie
[ - ] Prairie 5 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 22:42:49 ago (+5/-0)
stopped a home invasion
Never expected that. I used to think they were noisy annoying dogs until I lived a year in a house with two. I was wrong, and they don't bark all the time either.
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[ - ] AugustineOfHippo2 5 points 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 07:42:45 ago (+5/-0)
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[ - ] bobdole9 4 points 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 08:10:03 ago (+4/-0)
[ + ] Breeder
[ - ] Breeder 2 points 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 07:44:42 ago (+2/-0)
https://www.voat.xyz/viewpost?postid=63f90b9a44a15
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[ - ] Peleg 9 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 20:29:26 ago (+9/-0)
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[ - ] lord_nougat 9 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 20:23:31 ago (+9/-0)
[ + ] TheOriginal1Icemonkey
[ - ] TheOriginal1Icemonkey 7 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 22:09:00 ago (+7/-0)
[ + ] AlexanderMorose13
[ - ] AlexanderMorose13 7 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 21:34:16 ago (+7/-0)
When you're ready, get another one.
Until then, celebrate the one that you had. And realize that, for a brief moment, you're now free to open that drawer in the refrigerator without feeling hassled to get him something to eat.
[ + ] PeckerwoodPerry
[ - ] PeckerwoodPerry 6 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 21:35:12 ago (+6/-0)
[ + ] Leveraction
[ - ] Leveraction 6 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 21:10:25 ago (+6/-0)
[ + ] BulletStopper
[ - ] BulletStopper 6 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 20:51:26 ago (+6/-0)*
Well, of course he was.
I understand that you are sad now. Your life feels diminished by his absence.
Not having a dog deprives both you and a gud doge of a life of love and companionship. Your doge would not want that for you.
Both benefit from the relationship. Hoomans and doges are both happier and healthier for it. A boon companion and loyal protector.
Gud hoomans are hard to come by. Right now there is gud doge out there somewhere waiting for a gud hooman to love and be happy with.
You should at least try to let him find you.
[ + ] TheBigGuyFromQueens
[ - ] TheBigGuyFromQueens 3 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 21:29:01 ago (+6/-3)
[ + ] lord_nougat
[ - ] lord_nougat 7 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 21:44:30 ago (+7/-0)
[ + ] BulletStopper
[ - ] BulletStopper 3 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 21:46:09 ago (+4/-1)*
I can assure you, with utmost certainty, that I will not. Every person who has ever made a serious attempt to do so in the past at least had the common courtesy to point a weapon at me while doing so. They were equally unsuccesful. Some did not survive the attempt.
The very next time you feel the uncontrollable urge to attempt to criticize, correct, or chastize any feature or facet of my writing or behavior, go outside, find a barrel cactus, drop your pants, bend over and do jump squats over it until either the urge passes or you bleed out.
I care not which.
[ + ] Spaceman84
[ - ] Spaceman84 8 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 22:18:30 ago (+10/-2)
[ + ] BulletStopper
[ - ] BulletStopper 1 point 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 22:55:56 ago (+1/-0)
[ + ] TheBigGuyFromQueens
[ - ] TheBigGuyFromQueens 1 point 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 15:47:35 ago (+2/-1)
[ + ] Steelerfish
[ - ] Steelerfish 3 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 22:36:22 ago (+3/-0)
[ + ] KeepPoal4fags
[ - ] KeepPoal4fags 4 points 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 00:35:54 ago (+4/-0)
It's so fkn jewish it creeps me out every time I hear it.
[ + ] Belfuro
[ - ] Belfuro 6 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 20:32:47 ago (+6/-0)
[ + ] MuricaPersonified
[ - ] MuricaPersonified 5 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 22:04:15 ago (+5/-0)
[ + ] KosherHiveKicker
[ - ] KosherHiveKicker 5 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 21:41:06 ago (+5/-0)
The best thing to do is get another pup, and raise him/her to be a carbon copy of your good boy.
[ + ] Nosferatjew
[ - ] Nosferatjew 5 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 21:16:56 ago (+5/-0)
[ + ] BoraxTheFungarian
[ - ] BoraxTheFungarian 4 points 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 00:47:29 ago (+4/-0)
Dogs could use you.
[ + ] Anus_Expander
[ - ] Anus_Expander 3 points 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 08:00:02 ago (+3/-0)*
[ + ] Hh
[ - ] Hh 4 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 22:28:41 ago (+4/-0)
[ + ] RedBarchetta
[ - ] RedBarchetta 4 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 21:47:19 ago (+4/-0)
[ + ] StealthNinjaTaliban
[ - ] StealthNinjaTaliban 4 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 21:38:21 ago (+4/-0)
Take a year off and get a Belgian malinois.
[ + ] dingbat
[ - ] dingbat 3 points 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 01:39:24 ago (+3/-0)
[ + ] KDs_Other_Burner
[ - ] KDs_Other_Burner 3 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 23:35:05 ago (+3/-0)
If it is genuine grief you are enduring than my heart goes out to you. Every trauma counsellor I've spoken to has always had the same message so I can save you some time. To enable your brain to start dealing with the terrible news and new reality it now finds itself in, stimulate the grieving process by doing something creative in tribute to your loved one. If you draw or paint or play the guitar then really express your feelings about them through that medium. If you're not visually or musically gifted then even a bad poem, free style verse or a letter on what they really meant to you can help the parts of your subconscious brain help process your trauma.
It's theorized this technique gives the non logical part of our cerebral cortex the factual finality to begin assisting the logical part in processing our feelings. And something like eight out of ten people who've tried this says it really helped. If you are struggling to process your feelings this may be a good way to begin to address them.
Take care my man. The passage of time will help you contextualize what you're feeling now. Try to use that time as productively as you can and find the space to heal.
[ + ] NoRefunds
[ - ] NoRefunds [op] 2 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 23:43:08 ago (+2/-0)
[ + ] Moravian
[ - ] Moravian 3 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 23:34:19 ago (+3/-0)
[ + ] mannerbund
[ - ] mannerbund 3 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 22:52:46 ago (+3/-0)
After so many, I'm ready to have no more after my current one of gets too old.
May you find the light of day yet again.
[ + ] Indoctrinated_USA
[ - ] Indoctrinated_USA 3 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 22:32:37 ago (+3/-0)
I'm sorry for your loss.
[ + ] Steelerfish
[ - ] Steelerfish 3 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 22:31:25 ago (+3/-0)
The Lord works in mysterious ways.
[ + ] Dingo
[ - ] Dingo 3 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 22:24:25 ago (+3/-0)
I understand the feeling.
I would like to consider the following idea. There are thousands ... millions? ... of dogs out there that need a great dog owner like you. Someone that could save them from some nigger owning them. So much more justice would come of you bringing in another dog. Maybe your grief can be the power that brings another dog love that wouldn't have gotten it?
[ + ] TheYiddler
[ - ] TheYiddler 0 points 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 06:11:18 ago (+0/-0)
If you want a real rescue, good luck dealing with the crazy pit bulls no one wants.
Don't get me wrong. Dogs are great. But cut the baby talk and fairy tales. And have less dogs and more kids.
[ + ] Sleazy
[ - ] Sleazy 3 points 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 20:29:33 ago (+3/-0)
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[ - ] Cantaloupe 2 points 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 02:28:37 ago (+2/-0)
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[ - ] jules_voight 1 point 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 16:08:17 ago (+1/-0)
[ + ] drhitler
[ - ] drhitler 2 points 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 01:27:48 ago (+2/-0)
Iam going to have to do this soon, GSD 12 years, shes like a child with her personality, still acts like puppy sometimes.
iam going to be devastated
[ + ] ilikeskittles
[ - ] ilikeskittles 1 point 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 10:41:04 ago (+1/-0)
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[ - ] con77 1 point 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 09:19:27 ago (+1/-0)
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[ - ] GreenSaint 1 point 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 01:22:12 ago (+1/-0)
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[ - ] CHIRO 1 point 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 01:17:17 ago (+1/-0)
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[ + ] dosvydanya_freedomz
[ - ] dosvydanya_freedomz 1 point 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 00:22:05 ago (+1/-0)
then i saw my own dog die of old age, struggling to gasp for air until his last minutes. again, terrible experience and because of that no more dogs in this house. also my old man is allergic to fur.
my niece and nephew wants one but so far we have told them a big nope.
instead they have lizards and turtles for mascots lol
oh yeah deep condolences OP
[ + ] Lost_In_The_Thinking
[ - ] Lost_In_The_Thinking 1 point 2 monthsFeb 19, 2024 23:53:49 ago (+1/-0)
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[ - ] froggy 0 points 2 monthsFeb 20, 2024 01:36:24 ago (+0/-0)