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One sect of my family had a hate gathering for Christmas where they gathered everyone together who was colluding to snub other family members, and once they all got together realized how stupid that was, they ended the gathering in record time. It was a waste of time for any of them to go over there, which is worth a brief chuckle. Most people I know didn't get together with more than one other person for Christmas, and that's all there really is to say about that.

New Year was also not one single person doing jack squat. I drove past my old apartment building at about 10pm yesterday. Every car in the lot. Which means everyone was home, and I know what they were all doing inside (getting high and/or drunk alone). Not one bar or public establishment was hopping. Even now, no one is talking about having done anything for the holidays. Even my rich friends traveling the world aren't reporting anything eventful besides sitting in their hotel room or sitting at a restaurant or bar or in their hotel room (by themselves) (who tf does that while traveling. what's the point?). Traveling has never been less worth doing.
My roommate on new year' eve was hiding out as if he was ashamed to admit he wasn't doing something fun for the night. I saw all my neighbors' vehicles parked in their normal spot, could see some of them inside (some live alone some live with one other person), and none of them so much as did a get-together with the other neighbors they know.

In general when people hang out these days it's some shallow, temporary one on one that doesn't build or progress toward anything. I mean, thinking back to when I lived with my brothers and sisters at my parents' house, even my parents would have people come over on a regular basis (so this isn't a "you're old thing", and my parents during the time I'm talking about were older than I am now). Everybody knew everybody. We'd chat, build rapport, do things in the future based on that rapport, get projects going, do fun events together, short term and long term things. When we'd go to someone's house for the holidays they'd have decorations up, food made, others would make food, people brought personality to the event. I don't see anyone doing this now. Even young people are sitting in their apartment/house and barely leave for anything. They rarely have guests unless it's me. No one has hobbies besides playing call of duty or consuming drugs and/or alcohol. They sure as hell aren't decorating their house or planning events or making dinners/lunches/having potlucks, going bowling. God I think the most these 16-19 year old kids I knew (who had boats, trucks, money) would do was a couple hour trip out in the woods once or twice a summer, and it was so procedural. We'd get to the woods do a few specific things then skedaddle, no talk about what's going on later that day or tomorrow, no talk about networking with other people (it didn't help that this one guy tried "calling" each and every single girl that entered the group - he eventually chased off every new girl and moved away because he had no options left), no talk about planning a bigger and better version of what we're doing in the future, and this wasn't even particularly fun, "living in the moment" stuff considering that in years passed we would do many things each day like this, and we'd do them day after day. The "downtime days" years ago were to spend time with our S.O. or something.

Jeez, in early December I went out to my buddy's cabin in the woods, and we were supposed to go paintballing in this arena they have set up, shoot guns off and play yard games get some music going but no. all they did was stand out on the porch smoking weed. and once people start smoking weed it sucks all the energy out of the party, from my observations. I don't even remember the conversation that night because it was just blah.

Every time I tag along with someone to go to the bar there's nothing going on of note there. The people who seem alive and active intentionally do antisocial things. Other people are minding their own business and seem to just like sitting at the bar. The bar is such a stupid venue, and it costs more than all other options.

Where is our culture going? What's next? Anyone have any similar experiences?