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You cannot be attracted to her for any physical feature you find desirable, that's just using her to satisfy your fetish.

You cannot he attracted to her for any of her talents because that's just using her potential to satisfy your parasitism.

You can be attracted to her personality, but not if she has any of the personality types that guys talk about as being attractive, that's using her to fulfill some fantasy relationship of yours.

She cannot be too young or you are predatory, she cannot be from a poorer country or you are exploiting the imbalance of power between your nations, her culture must be at least as feminist as your own, etc.

It can be problematic for yoh to find just about anything about a women to be attractive, if you have a reason to be attracted to her at all its a problem, having no reason too is wrong as you are more interested in being in a relationship than carrying a out who you get into one with, and she is less of a person than she is a girlfriend.

You cannot be attracted to women without it becoming a problem.

If you approach her awkwardly you are a creep who must learn how to approach women, if you approach her using the tips and tricks you could learn you are a manipulative PUA "groomer" (despite her being an adult).

If you plan out a particular kind of relationship you are controlling, if you just wing it with her you aren't invested in making it work, you need a plan.

You cannot be too forward, but you need to man up and make the first move, you must accept rejection with grace but it's your fault if you reject her and she ends up feeling hurt by it.