I'm surprised my gf is anti covid since she has a very strong pro government sentiment. She takes instagram and google as gospel, and is not capable of differentiating between an opinion and a fact. She is not self correcting or aware enough of her own behavior to understand how her behavior can be adapted. Her behavior can best be described as mixture a nigger brain and jewish mental predisposition. The weird thing is she's White as can be.
My gf has no emotional regulation. She dumps her feelings onto other people. The anxiety behavior boils down to severe issues with being able to communicate her feelings properly. The behavior is impossible to account for or predict. One day she can be normal. The next day, I may as well take a day off work to go on a wild goose chase. There is no rhyme and reason in her emotions. She was much better about this not even a year ago. Now, I have no idea why this behavior became progressively worse.
The thing is she also has a lot of good qualities. But now I can't tell if those qualities are genuine or fake. If she's so pro gov and pro compliance to the state and society, why is she anti covid? The qualities I loved are now being questioned because I can't tell why they were there in the first place.And if she only decided against COVID due to her own family telling her not to get it, than it shows severe mental acuity problems. This person doesn't make decisions, she waits until someone else makes the decision and weighs in on which decision "sounds" the best. This way if it goes south, she can immediately blame the other person.
In my home state, none of my behavior has ever been seen as out there. I've never had anyone call me mentally ill, or different. Even at my most racist and anti gay, I never had anyone tell me I was wrong. My speech went on to help people talk their minds more openly. The only reason i come off as out there, is because the PC window in NY is so far to the left, that calling a woman a woman makes you some crazy, deranged monster.
It reads like you already have made your decision. I dated plenty of crazy. p-l-e-n-t-y. Best sexual years of my life. But I married boring. She cooks, cleans, works, is on the same page as me philisophically and we enjoy each others company. Three years ago we decided on definitley not getting the jab. two years ago my large defense-contractor employer gave me the ultimatum. I quit and she was supportive even though I walked away from beaucoup $. Trust me, when you get older, boring is a better option than neurotic
Bro, i'm lucky to be alive given the way I grew up. Survived abuse, neglect as a child and some seriously hard core peers as a teen and young adult. Dropped out at 14 and went on to finish MULTIPLE degrees. You want me to feel bad about the conditions of my youth before I was developed anough to know any better? WHatever, I can guaran-fucking-tee you I had more fun than you LOL
[ - ] clymer 1 point 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 19:30:31 ago (+1/-0)
Naaah. I don't want anyne to feel bad for me. I wouldn't change it for anything because it forced me to focus, hone, sweat, learn, develop. I built my own houses with skills I learned from friends who brought me into the trades. I am equipped to navigate the oncoming economic collapse better than any of my neighbors. I would not be the man I became without those experiences. I forgive my abusers, thank the creator for the guidance provided AND ..I still had more fun than you LOL
It might be time to run. You don’t want to start a family with someone like this because you know that will end in divorce rape. And if you aren’t going to start a family, why not?
A good example of a problem im dealing with. I went to a pulm appointment. The scheduled a follow up, but my gf wanted to come along. They had mutliple slots: one slot was after my work day and wouldn't impede with my workday. The other is early afternoon and impedes with my workday. One day they were open late, the other they close early. Guess which one my gf decided to go for? I've had to call multiple times because i create one appointment than my gf has a "conflict" and i need to reschedule, but then the reschedule ends up conflicting with my own workday.
Instead of being certain which appointment to take, she flip flops and ends up changing her mind, causing multiple reschedules (this isnt just a pulm issue either), conflicts, etc. This is how a follow up appointment can go from being next week to next month due to all the scheduling conflicts. The second issue is she keeps piling on new items onto her schedule, without ever checking to see if there's a conflict in the first place, which leads to even more issues.
This person absolutely refuses to concede an inch when it comes to practicality, so i end up having to chop up my own day to accommodate hers. What makes this all deeply ironic is that her job is part time in the mornings ... so im really just having to accommodate to my gf being lazy, tired or too ignorant to check her schedule.
[ - ] xachariah 1 point 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 15:07:51 ago (+1/-0)
This. She sounds like she's getting all messed up by social media.
IMO, get her off of instagram and tiktok, and onto something a right wing reddit clone (voat or .win or whatever) and she'll probably stop being crazy.
Don't marry her and especially don't have children with her!
I've always just figured that most anxiety and depression was probably the result of making horrible decisions. Like if she is cheating on you. That's why it had a starting point and seems to be getting worse. Or she could just be a nut job! Either way you're better off finding a new gf.
Sounds like most females. You can work on her, think it through and use the Socratic method via emotional questions or statements. (ie, questions). Here's an example.
"I saw the FBI statistics and was shocked. I keep reading about the stories of inner city negro violence (don't say "nigger", say what ever she uses for them - I'll use "negros" in this example). FBI stats show that negros do 51% of violent crime but only make up 13% of the population and it's a huge issue for the few honest negros who live inner city and they are the recipients of these massive crime waves. Poor women there get raped a a fucking huge high level. Its too bad we can help them somehow, but we can't eve3n have an honest discussing that it's happening without being called racist. You'll never fix the issue unless you can start to discuss it. Did you know that 51% of the rapes, murders and violent robbery's were down by negros honey?"
Then have a discussion and warn her to be careful around blacks. When you read of some egregious attack or coal toll, share it with her.
Would it really work on someone who behaves the way that's described by OP who is also "middle aged" (as in, should have been an adult for at least a decade)?
Women are like a canvas that others draw on. Other people drew on her before you and continue to now, even just the news or her friends/sisters whatever. Women's thoughts, in a very real sense, are never fully their own.
Sometimes the canvas gets ruined but most of the time you have to just apply enough paint to cover the damage and you'll be fine. There's a whole range of degrees though so you have to make a judgment on how much work it's worth.
Frankly, from your description, she doesn't sound that bad. She's like a child that needs trained. Maybe she needs more than some, but probably a lot less than most these days.
Women look around for something to walk in step with, that's how they decide things. You have to make sure that thing is you. Expecting her to figure out big things, things that require discernment, is probably asking too much of her, at least until you've spent a few years coaching her and modelling what that looks like for her.
Stop judging women by the standard you'd hold an adult to. They are never fully adults. But with love and diligence we can usually help them grow into good godly women, which are awesome to have. If they buck a bit, that's normal, but if they flat out refuse to learn, well there are some lost causes.
Your real choice is "how much work am I willing to put into this woman?" And you cant slack, you have to engage with her a lot more than you want to, you be the one that teaches her, you have to know what other voices she's listening to, and if you don't give God place in your life you're gonna fail even if she had started out optimal. You need wisdom and "the fear of the Lord is the beginning of Wisdom".
For her part; A middle aged man that cannot control his women is not worth her trouble. Anxiety is the default state of mind for women; our job is to alleviate that through dominance and competence.
If she's this bad now, how bad is it going to be when she's pregnant or in the care of small children? Or even when you marry her and she stops putting up appearances? Do you really want to be babysitting this woman the rest of your life?
Woman by their nature are more emotional but if she is truly into she wants you to take the lead. If she would choose friends over your lead then dump her.
My gf also has abnormally high anxiety. It’s annoying as fuck, relaxing isn’t a thing she knows how to do.
She has the same issue with social media as your gf. It’s gospel to her. I can give her some advice or information about things and it goes in one ear out the other. If it’s on Instagram all of a sudden it’s a huge deal like she just discovered a new world, when I literally mentioned it a week earlier.
Idk man. These girls ain’t right. I’m thinking of dumping her. It’s too much bullshit
[ + ] HonkyMcNiggerSpic
[ - ] HonkyMcNiggerSpic 11 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 12:06:43 ago (+11/-0)
[ + ] clymer
[ - ] clymer 7 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 11:42:20 ago (+7/-0)
[ + ] PhantomXLII
[ - ] PhantomXLII 1 point 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 11:47:02 ago (+7/-6)
How's it feel to know you're a whoremongering degenerate? Barely a step above a faggot.
[ + ] clymer
[ - ] clymer 3 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 14:09:27 ago (+3/-0)
[ + ] s23erdctfvyg
[ - ] s23erdctfvyg -2 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 15:25:24 ago (+0/-2)
You're still a whoremonger, and your wife deserves better.
[ + ] clymer
[ - ] clymer 1 point 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 19:30:31 ago (+1/-0)
[ + ] Merlynn
[ - ] Merlynn 1 point 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 13:21:28 ago (+1/-0)
[ + ] WNwoman
[ - ] WNwoman 6 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 10:49:06 ago (+6/-0)
It might be time to run. You don’t want to start a family with someone like this because you know that will end in divorce rape. And if you aren’t going to start a family, why not?
[ + ] heytheremyfriends
[ - ] heytheremyfriends [op] 0 points 6 monthsOct 31, 2023 14:24:58 ago (+0/-0)
Instead of being certain which appointment to take, she flip flops and ends up changing her mind, causing multiple reschedules (this isnt just a pulm issue either), conflicts, etc. This is how a follow up appointment can go from being next week to next month due to all the scheduling conflicts. The second issue is she keeps piling on new items onto her schedule, without ever checking to see if there's a conflict in the first place, which leads to even more issues.
This person absolutely refuses to concede an inch when it comes to practicality, so i end up having to chop up my own day to accommodate hers. What makes this all deeply ironic is that her job is part time in the mornings ... so im really just having to accommodate to my gf being lazy, tired or too ignorant to check her schedule.
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[ - ] deleted 4 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 10:51:13 ago (+5/-1)
[ + ] SumerBreeze
[ - ] SumerBreeze 2 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 11:08:13 ago (+2/-0)
[ + ] deleted
[ - ] deleted 2 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 11:13:58 ago (+2/-0)
[ + ] Gowithit
[ - ] Gowithit 4 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 11:36:22 ago (+4/-0)
[ + ] PhantomXLII
[ - ] PhantomXLII 2 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 11:48:16 ago (+2/-0)
😐👍🏻
[ + ] xachariah
[ - ] xachariah 1 point 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 15:07:51 ago (+1/-0)
IMO, get her off of instagram and tiktok, and onto something a right wing reddit clone (voat or .win or whatever) and she'll probably stop being crazy.
[ + ] Artificial_Intelligentile
[ - ] Artificial_Intelligentile 3 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 11:02:41 ago (+3/-0)
[ + ] Peleg
[ - ] Peleg 2 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 11:00:21 ago (+2/-0)
I've always just figured that most anxiety and depression was probably the result of making horrible decisions. Like if she is cheating on you. That's why it had a starting point and seems to be getting worse. Or she could just be a nut job!
Either way you're better off finding a new gf.
[ + ] beece
[ - ] beece 2 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 10:56:32 ago (+2/-0)*
"I saw the FBI statistics and was shocked. I keep reading about the stories of inner city negro violence (don't say "nigger", say what ever she uses for them - I'll use "negros" in this example). FBI stats show that negros do 51% of violent crime but only make up 13% of the population and it's a huge issue for the few honest negros who live inner city and they are the recipients of these massive crime waves. Poor women there get raped a a fucking huge high level. Its too bad we can help them somehow, but we can't eve3n have an honest discussing that it's happening without being called racist. You'll never fix the issue unless you can start to discuss it. Did you know that 51% of the rapes, murders and violent robbery's were down by negros honey?"
Then have a discussion and warn her to be careful around blacks. When you read of some egregious attack or coal toll, share it with her.
[ + ] bobdole9
[ - ] bobdole9 0 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 10:59:24 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ] 1point21jiggawatts
[ - ] 1point21jiggawatts 1 point 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 12:57:27 ago (+1/-0)
Sometimes the canvas gets ruined but most of the time you have to just apply enough paint to cover the damage and you'll be fine. There's a whole range of degrees though so you have to make a judgment on how much work it's worth.
Frankly, from your description, she doesn't sound that bad. She's like a child that needs trained. Maybe she needs more than some, but probably a lot less than most these days.
Women look around for something to walk in step with, that's how they decide things. You have to make sure that thing is you. Expecting her to figure out big things, things that require discernment, is probably asking too much of her, at least until you've spent a few years coaching her and modelling what that looks like for her.
Stop judging women by the standard you'd hold an adult to. They are never fully adults. But with love and diligence we can usually help them grow into good godly women, which are awesome to have. If they buck a bit, that's normal, but if they flat out refuse to learn, well there are some lost causes.
Your real choice is "how much work am I willing to put into this woman?" And you cant slack, you have to engage with her a lot more than you want to, you be the one that teaches her, you have to know what other voices she's listening to, and if you don't give God place in your life you're gonna fail even if she had started out optimal. You need wisdom and "the fear of the Lord is the beginning of Wisdom".
[ + ] bobdole9
[ - ] bobdole9 1 point 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 10:50:45 ago (+1/-0)
Has she ever had to live independently?
What's her general age?
Is she on birth control and did she start while you two were in the relationship?
Luckily it's still "gf" so no court or documents if you split.
[ + ] heytheremyfriends
[ - ] heytheremyfriends [op] 1 point 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 10:51:32 ago (+1/-0)
[ + ] WNwoman
[ - ] WNwoman 2 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 10:54:41 ago (+2/-0)
[ + ] MrPancake
[ - ] MrPancake 4 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 12:20:54 ago (+4/-0)
[ + ] albatrosv15
[ - ] albatrosv15 0 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 15:36:41 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ] bobdole9
[ - ] bobdole9 3 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 10:57:23 ago (+3/-0)
[ + ] bobdole9
[ - ] bobdole9 1 point 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 10:56:08 ago (+1/-0)
Unless you think hashing out these issues with her could work.
[ + ] deleted
[ - ] deleted 0 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 11:02:33 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ] Nosferatjew
[ - ] Nosferatjew 0 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 19:13:43 ago (+0/-0)
Just dump her and get on with your life.
[ + ] Anus_Expander
[ - ] Anus_Expander 0 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 17:40:20 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ] albatrosv15
[ - ] albatrosv15 0 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 15:39:09 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ] s23erdctfvyg
[ - ] s23erdctfvyg 0 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 15:30:06 ago (+0/-0)
Don't be a dumbass, and be abstinent until you see if that was the issue.
[ + ] Endo_Aryan
[ - ] Endo_Aryan 0 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 14:53:01 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ] Bigdeal
[ - ] Bigdeal 0 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 13:03:10 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ] big_fat_dangus
[ - ] big_fat_dangus 0 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 12:33:03 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ] Gowithit
[ - ] Gowithit 0 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 12:54:12 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ] 2Drunk
[ - ] 2Drunk 0 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 12:26:26 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ] MrPancake
[ - ] MrPancake 0 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 12:23:03 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ]deleted
[ - ] deleted 0 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 12:19:35 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ] Localuser
[ - ] Localuser 0 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 12:04:21 ago (+0/-0)
She has the same issue with social media as your gf. It’s gospel to her. I can give her some advice or information about things and it goes in one ear out the other. If it’s on Instagram all of a sudden it’s a huge deal like she just discovered a new world, when I literally mentioned it a week earlier.
Idk man. These girls ain’t right. I’m thinking of dumping her. It’s too much bullshit
[ + ]deleted
[ - ] deleted 0 points 6 monthsOct 27, 2023 10:54:25 ago (+0/-0)