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No, I don't struggle or attract at all man. Haven't for about... Four years now I think. Almost five. Besides, my idea of "hot" doesn't really matter anyway. Most women have broken that whole "don't be an adulterous/promiscuous bitch" rule God himself set down so... Yeah.

It's really a "great filter" of sorts. Pair that with living in a small town and no, shit ain't happening. No "options".

On the bright side, I don't know any different than being a single fucker so I can't feel too bad about it. Can't miss what you never had and all that.

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I think that's right. A person's 'energy' is something that's hard to talk about; words don't do it justice, but we all know what is meant by it. One person can change a room, right. People love to feel interesting and important, not just in the sense of titles and status, but in the sense of another human being authentically engaging with them.

That's great you brought up fasting. I was going to mention this. That state of heightened senses - esp. visual acuity and overall mental sharpness - goes up pretty dramatically when you are fasting. It's time to hunt, or so your body thinks. The 'hunt' you are on with vacation is not totally separate from that, you're just hunting a different substance. So strange to think that the faculties we have for threat detection (pertaining to bad stuff) are the same by which we experience the best things in life.

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Of course you don’t glow when you aren’t here.
No shit Sherlock!

If you left, how would you get paid?

You're right. Sumer's response was good. There's a weird and fascinating interaction between novelty, expectation, experience/competence, and the unknown. I'm not Peterson's biggest fan, but he and his other pyschologist comrade, J. Vervaeke, have both discussed the concept of flow states. Something special happens when you introduce the right level of novelty to a person, when their experience and competence permit their encounter with the unknown to generally be promising and beneficent. It's an encounter with 'God' in which God is giving and 'favors you'. Contast that with an encounter with God in which God is chaotic and wrathful.

It's something like the matching between competence and confidence and the level of novelty. Imagine Sumer 'traveled' by being kidnapped, blindfolded, and dropped all alone in a strange part of the world with nothing but empty pockets and the shirt on his back. In one sense, Sumer still 'traveled' didn't he? But somehow I doubt if he would have a glow in this situation.

Too little stimulation/challenge leaves you stifled. Too much stimulation/challenge overwhelms you. Finding the 'glow' has something to do with dropping yourself into newness that is perfectly matched with your ability to encounter the unknown in it with the expectation of promise/reward, not harm. Anyway, I'm ranting like usual. I think having a generally 'good' life involves finding the right balance of the unknown, where you're challenged at just the right level to push you a bit out of your comfort zone, into curiosity and learning, but not so much that you lose the thread. For the most part, vacations are planned to do exactly this - if they're good vacations. Maybe some people just need the new locale and can do everything normal that you'd find in a resort or whatever. Others will take vacations to go and kayak down a fast-moving river for the first time. Probably, the second vacation is going to be the more enriching one.

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