This is basically how they (hospice provider) were trying to kill my mother when she had ALS. It took me a couple of months to figure out what they were up to. They lied to us about her nutritional needs. Insisted she needed morphine. She refused the morphine and they got mad. I was like WTF? Then we fought with them over the food and water and finally we brought in a 3rd party nutritionist who confirmed she was not getting enough nutrition and was dehydrated. I discovered they have a financial incentive to finish off hospice patients within a 6 month time frame. They were always saying, “It wont be much longer, just a few more weeks” but she lasted 2 years. They last a few weeks normally because they kill everyone without pushy interfering families. They wanted us to sign away our rights to decide if my mother gets life saving treatment in a health crisis, before the health crisis. Im like, “why the fuck would we do that?” Hospice healthcare is full of woke ghouls who prey on naive families. Don’t trust these fuckers. Especially the social workers. I thought I was going to kill one of these bitches.
"I thought I was going to kill one of these bitches."
Yeah. I know what you went through. I almost beat the dog piss out of a "doctor" over mom. This sob sat right there and killed my mom, with words. Bastard told her to either take his poison for her cancer or call hospice. I sat there and watched as the will to live flowed right out of her eyes. When shtf I'm going to pay that son of a bitch a visit.
My mom got the ALS from chemo. She got all these neurological problems within a few weeks of starting chemo. She died of the ALS
But the thing is she would have never needed the chemo in the first place but they misdiagnosed her tumor during two annual colonoscopies. They fucked up. By the time they discovered it , the tumor was advanced, she needed chemo. And she died as a result. Whats the point in having that thing shove up your ass every year? If they are going to fuck up so bad! Some incompetent physicians assistant told her it was a hemorrhoid. She could have lived 10 more years easily.
Modern healthcare is like a shitty chinese factory assembly line. The quality is garbage and no one cares.
my granny passed away this way. her kidneys were shot and her high blood pressure was sky high plus she already lost her legs due to gangrene so yeah my family decided that it was her time to go
her last words to me were DO NOT FEAR and to take good care of my mother. shit i'm remembering the last call and it hurts 😢
btw, i didnt consent but there was nothing i could do since i was only her grandson
These situations are really fucking aweful. There is a point past which you really want the person to die because they are a fucking mess and they are suffering and the people who take care of that person are suffering too.
She (mom) was at home with my dad and they had nursing staff coming almost everyday but my dad had to do alot of the caretaking and he was not young. My mom was totally bed ridden and somewhat senile but she still knew what was going on and had an opinion about everything. I had to have very uncomfortable conversations with her about whether she wanted to die faster ( low food, high morphine) or carry on. She did not want to die or be “helped along” . I tried to advocate for what she would want. It was tricky because she was not 100% there, but she was not in terrible pain.
So we decided to give her optimal nutrition and water. The hospice group was constantly pressuring us against this ( after we found out they lied to us about her calorie requirements). They made me constantly second guess myself. The social worker tormented my father. When she got a jaw infection they didnt want to prescribe antibiotics. They were like “let’s wait and see before we call the doctor” . Im like “hello, this is a bone infection! Call him right fucking now! “ .
These are hard decisions to make. But they wanted to off her way too soon, and Im glad I got wise to those bitches. My mental attitude toward them totally changed. I realized they were not allies and I had to watch them like a hawk and question everything that they did. And that what I did.
And she (mom) used to work in a hospital and she told me horror stories of healthcare incompetence throughout my childhood. And it really did prepare me somewhat to stand up to these cunts. Which I did.
I have regrets about that time. What I wish I would have done, etc. It just never goes the way you want. I tried to do the right thing but theres a lot of guilt. I really believe you have to be your own doctor to an extent, and make sure the actual doctors, nurses, are doing their job. Because they usually dont give a fuck. Sorry about your granny.
yeah caring for a pretty ill relative can be taxing at times. but boy i miss my granny she was a pretty bold woman that did live her own way. i know that someday i will see her again. in the meantime i will keep her in my memory as long as am alive.
this life sometimes pushes you through tough circumstances that you even werent aware that it existed before.
none foresaw her health to go down that fast the way she did. she was so great that she died on her birthday
you are right we ought to be vigilant with our caregivers
[ + ] PostWallHelena
[ - ] PostWallHelena 6 points 1.8 yearsJul 21, 2023 02:19:02 ago (+6/-0)
[ + ] Peleg
[ - ] Peleg 3 points 1.8 yearsJul 21, 2023 09:42:19 ago (+3/-0)
Yeah. I know what you went through. I almost beat the dog piss out of a "doctor" over mom.
This sob sat right there and killed my mom, with words. Bastard told her to either take his poison for her cancer or call hospice. I sat there and watched as the will to live flowed right out of her eyes.
When shtf I'm going to pay that son of a bitch a visit.
[ + ] PostWallHelena
[ - ] PostWallHelena 0 points 1.8 yearsJul 21, 2023 14:46:31 ago (+0/-0)
But the thing is she would have never needed the chemo in the first place but they misdiagnosed her tumor during two annual colonoscopies. They fucked up. By the time they discovered it , the tumor was advanced, she needed chemo. And she died as a result. Whats the point in having that thing shove up your ass every year? If they are going to fuck up so bad! Some incompetent physicians assistant told her it was a hemorrhoid. She could have lived 10 more years easily.
Modern healthcare is like a shitty chinese factory assembly line. The quality is garbage and no one cares.
[ + ] dosvydanya_freedomz
[ - ] dosvydanya_freedomz [op] 1 point 1.8 yearsJul 21, 2023 02:27:49 ago (+1/-0)
her last words to me were DO NOT FEAR and to take good care of my mother. shit i'm remembering the last call and it hurts 😢
btw, i didnt consent but there was nothing i could do since i was only her grandson
[ + ] PostWallHelena
[ - ] PostWallHelena 1 point 1.8 yearsJul 21, 2023 14:36:37 ago (+1/-0)
She (mom) was at home with my dad and they had nursing staff coming almost everyday but my dad had to do alot of the caretaking and he was not young. My mom was totally bed ridden and somewhat senile but she still knew what was going on and had an opinion about everything. I had to have very uncomfortable conversations with her about whether she wanted to die faster ( low food, high morphine) or carry on. She did not want to die or be “helped along” . I tried to advocate for what she would want. It was tricky because she was not 100% there, but she was not in terrible pain.
So we decided to give her optimal nutrition and water. The hospice group was constantly pressuring us against this ( after we found out they lied to us about her calorie requirements). They made me constantly second guess myself. The social worker tormented my father. When she got a jaw infection they didnt want to prescribe antibiotics. They were like “let’s wait and see before we call the doctor” . Im like “hello, this is a bone infection! Call him right fucking now! “ .
These are hard decisions to make. But they wanted to off her way too soon, and Im glad I got wise to those bitches. My mental attitude toward them totally changed. I realized they were not allies and I had to watch them like a hawk and question everything that they did. And that what I did.
And she (mom) used to work in a hospital and she told me horror stories of healthcare incompetence throughout my childhood. And it really did prepare me somewhat to stand up to these cunts. Which I did.
I have regrets about that time. What I wish I would have done, etc. It just never goes the way you want. I tried to do the right thing but theres a lot of guilt. I really believe you have to be your own doctor to an extent, and make sure the actual doctors, nurses, are doing their job. Because they usually dont give a fuck. Sorry about your granny.
[ + ] dosvydanya_freedomz
[ - ] dosvydanya_freedomz [op] 0 points 1.8 yearsJul 21, 2023 14:47:10 ago (+0/-0)
this life sometimes pushes you through tough circumstances that you even werent aware that it existed before.
none foresaw her health to go down that fast the way she did. she was so great that she died on her birthday
you are right we ought to be vigilant with our caregivers
[ + ] PostWallHelena
[ - ] PostWallHelena 0 points 1.8 yearsJul 21, 2023 14:54:18 ago (+0/-0)
RIP to your granny. My mom was pretty bold and liked things her own way as well.