A few summers ago I was lazying on the beach watching the surfers and bodyboarders and a woman stood on the sand calling her husband in but he didn't want to go. He was having the time of his life catching some lovely waves. She stood there and yelled and waved again. No luck. Then the kids joined in waving and making kiddie noise. Finally the woman gave up, collected their gear and she and the kids started walking back to the car. Eventually poor ol' dad stumbled out of the surf and followed them.That was his bit of fun for the week. No doubt he had a kiddie's birthday party to go to where he'd stand in a corner with the other men drinking beer and talking politics and his wife would be in the other corner with the other moms talking their heads off about canteen rosters and the kids would be charging about making their inane noise until one inevitably collided with a piece of furniture and out poured the tears. But one man's heart wasn't in the social chit chat. He was out there in the waves under a blue sky, paddling, paddling and catching a ride and gliding down a wall of water. That man was @Ragnar
Each of them are special to me in their own way and have their own unique gifts to offer not only us, but the world.
Everything seems simple from the outside, bro. Tell me that becoming a husband didn't change you, at least a little bit (even if the Mrs. wears the pants in your family).
Missing a few parentheses there, buddy and you're off to a good start. There may be hope for you after all!
As to the "hideous reality of parenting", I get that you've got a bit of a back-story there, bro. News-flash: we all do.
My mother was a cold-hearted, emotionally distant bitch who lamented every day of her miserable lot. My father was absent for most of my life.
At least part of that sound familiar?
Thing is, we all had at least some kind of shit circumstances during our formative years. What matters is what you make of it.
Rose from shit circumstances to not only proud father of many *wonderful* children (we have a shitload, dude), but also the heir apparent to the extended family.
[ - ] paul_neri [op] 1 point 1.4 yearsNov 26, 2022 20:44:56 ago (+1/-0)
"At least part of that sound familiar?".
I hate to talk about myself but, yes, familiar: "My mother was a cold-hearted, emotionally distant bitch who lamented every day of her miserable lot. My father was absent for most of my life.".
But my ol' man was absent 'cos he was earning money to keep his family going. When he was about he was there when we needed him. He'd drive 100's of kms to rescue us when our bomby cars broke down. My mother was always about but never there when we needed her. If it wasn't for the affection our ol' man displayed to us we'd be psychos inhabiting weird chat rooms on the Internet!
For your possible interest...I had a nasty falling out with my mother toward her end and in the 6 months before she died I didn't ring her - narcissistic, self-obsessed old hag that she was.
[ - ] Fascinus 1 point 1.4 yearsNov 26, 2022 21:06:17 ago (+1/-0)
Appreciate where you're coming from bro and it's not exactly like that.
There's a part of me that sees a bit of potential in queeri. As long as the odds are, I'd rather hoped to make a proper man out of him before he dies suddenly.
[ - ] Name 1 point 1.4 yearsNov 26, 2022 21:56:03 ago (+1/-0)
Meh. I have nothing to gain or lose in the situation either way. I just don’t trust anyone without an origin story. Everyone’s origin story is revealed through the language they use in the culture they reference, but not him for some reason. Nobody just stumbles upon this armpit of the Internet accidentally.
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[ - ] Fascinus 2 points 1.4 yearsNov 26, 2022 19:42:16 ago (+2/-0)
The greatest gifts in my life have been given to me by our children.
To know love like that is a greater gift than I could ever have imagined.
Pity you missed out, buddy. You had so much potential.
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[ - ] paul_neri [op] 0 points 1.4 yearsNov 26, 2022 20:24:13 ago (+0/-0)
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[ - ] Fascinus 1 point 1.4 yearsNov 26, 2022 20:25:00 ago (+1/-0)
Thing is, you can't know until you know :)
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[ - ] paul_neri [op] 0 points 1.4 yearsNov 26, 2022 20:26:44 ago (+0/-0)
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[ - ] Fascinus 0 points 1.4 yearsNov 26, 2022 20:36:10 ago (+0/-0)
Each of them are special to me in their own way and have their own unique gifts to offer not only us, but the world.
Everything seems simple from the outside, bro. Tell me that becoming a husband didn't change you, at least a little bit (even if the Mrs. wears the pants in your family).
[ + ] paul_neri
[ - ] paul_neri [op] 0 points 1.4 yearsNov 26, 2022 20:25:32 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ] Fascinus
[ - ] Fascinus 0 points 1.4 yearsNov 26, 2022 20:33:56 ago (+0/-0)
As to the "hideous reality of parenting", I get that you've got a bit of a back-story there, bro. News-flash: we all do.
My mother was a cold-hearted, emotionally distant bitch who lamented every day of her miserable lot. My father was absent for most of my life.
At least part of that sound familiar?
Thing is, we all had at least some kind of shit circumstances during our formative years. What matters is what you make of it.
Rose from shit circumstances to not only proud father of many *wonderful* children (we have a shitload, dude), but also the heir apparent to the extended family.
Life is what you make of it.
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[ - ] paul_neri [op] 1 point 1.4 yearsNov 26, 2022 20:44:56 ago (+1/-0)
I hate to talk about myself but, yes, familiar: "My mother was a cold-hearted, emotionally distant bitch who lamented every day of her miserable lot. My father was absent for most of my life.".
But my ol' man was absent 'cos he was earning money to keep his family going. When he was about he was there when we needed him. He'd drive 100's of kms to rescue us when our bomby cars broke down. My mother was always about but never there when we needed her. If it wasn't for the affection our ol' man displayed to us we'd be psychos inhabiting weird chat rooms on the Internet!
For your possible interest...I had a nasty falling out with my mother toward her end and in the 6 months before she died I didn't ring her - narcissistic, self-obsessed old hag that she was.
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[ - ] Name 0 points 1.4 yearsNov 26, 2022 21:02:58 ago (+0/-0)
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[ - ] Fascinus 1 point 1.4 yearsNov 26, 2022 21:06:17 ago (+1/-0)
There's a part of me that sees a bit of potential in queeri. As long as the odds are, I'd rather hoped to make a proper man out of him before he dies suddenly.
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[ - ] Name 0 points 1.4 yearsNov 26, 2022 21:37:10 ago (+0/-0)
[ + ] Fascinus
[ - ] Fascinus 0 points 1.4 yearsNov 26, 2022 21:49:19 ago (+0/-0)
That being said, he'll say things that will surprise you from time to time.
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[ - ] Name 1 point 1.4 yearsNov 26, 2022 21:56:03 ago (+1/-0)
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[ - ] paul_neri [op] 0 points 1.4 yearsNov 26, 2022 22:33:08 ago (+0/-0)
7/10
Your line or...?
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[ - ] Name 0 points 1.4 yearsNov 26, 2022 22:51:05 ago (+0/-0)
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[ - ] Cantaloupe 0 points 1.4 yearsNov 26, 2022 22:29:51 ago (+0/-0)*
It can be fun to enjoy nature.
Riding a wave in the sun isn't all that exciting though. It's really subconsciously nesting. Finding a resourceful environment.
The same with socializing, it's about a resourceful environment for mating. Wait too long and year by year it disappears.
Families can be most meaningful as they can the closest if that is what one makes of it.