I get a lot of female attention but wind up with medicore psychos because i have mental blocks that sabotages me. In the past week I screwed up several opportunities with hot, eager women. Then I have some insane roastie getting bitter at me. I’m sick of this shit.
Your only problem is that you believe in the psychobabble therapy bullshit.
"I have mental bocks". No you don't. You're interested in your own head. Women are interested in their own self and want you to be too. They're biologically made to be the attractant. Yu ae biologically made to be attracted. Either you are, or you aren't. Climb out of your own head and look at her, and see the parts and pieces. That's all she really requires. When she babbles on verbally about crap you guide her with "subtle" signals of approval or disapproval You guide her, she doesn't guide you.
"I sabotage myself" You're not supposed to be in a relationship with yourself, but the woman you are interacting with.
I deal with something like this too. Only started a few years ago and got real bad past year or so. I even semi-convinced myself that women mostly hated me until I thought back to a bunch of times I was turning them down or ghosting or whatever.
It's the worst with the ones I'm most attracted to, but lately any sign of attraction from them puts my guard up instantly and all of a sudden I'll feel really, really tired and this urgent need to get away from everybody immediately. I think I occasionally misread some flirting as hostility too.
I'm so angry about it but also starting to not even care anymore which I hate even worse. I know it's on me to change this but it's such an involuntary reaction and nothing about it makes sense.
I'm a little relieved to know there's at least someone who described such a similar experience. At least I'm not alone.
I think I have an approach to work on it though. I've been trying to foster my sense of competition and also do more things outside of my comfort zone. So things like playing a sport where someone loses, or something that's a little dangerous and scary to learn like mountain biking. And just taking more (reasonable) risks in general.
Feels like that pushes my general mindset in the right direction. Can't be easy though. It's the intensity that does it.
Also not doing that thing where you're thinking about it so you start looking up answers on the internet. That seems to push my mindset in the wrong direction 9 times out of 10. Not worth it even for the occasional insight.
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[ - ] anon 4004515 9 points 2.9 yearsJun 27, 2022 21:50:39 ago (+9/-0)
"I have mental bocks". No you don't. You're interested in your own head. Women are interested in their own self and want you to be too. They're biologically made to be the attractant. Yu ae biologically made to be attracted. Either you are, or you aren't. Climb out of your own head and look at her, and see the parts and pieces. That's all she really requires. When she babbles on verbally about crap you guide her with "subtle" signals of approval or disapproval You guide her, she doesn't guide you.
"I sabotage myself" You're not supposed to be in a relationship with yourself, but the woman you are interacting with.
Women don't like other women, don't be one.
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[ - ] anon 2075360 1 point 2.9 yearsJun 28, 2022 04:16:29 ago (+1/-0)
If they're worth a fuck, they'll contour to the man you are not expect you to bend over for them. If you do that they won't respect you.
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[ - ] anon 3251341 1 point 2.9 yearsJun 28, 2022 01:38:34 ago (+1/-0)
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[ - ] anon 1530985 1 point 2.9 yearsJun 28, 2022 01:15:36 ago (+1/-0)
Consider any problem as your excuse for not achieving.
Think of the goal not the problems.
Pick one of those hot women and pursue her.
Also check if she has mental flaws.
Check her family relationships, career, achievements, successes.
Look at Amber Heard, she's an awful person. There are far better people more worthy of one's time.
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It's the worst with the ones I'm most attracted to, but lately any sign of attraction from them puts my guard up instantly and all of a sudden I'll feel really, really tired and this urgent need to get away from everybody immediately. I think I occasionally misread some flirting as hostility too.
I'm so angry about it but also starting to not even care anymore which I hate even worse. I know it's on me to change this but it's such an involuntary reaction and nothing about it makes sense.
I'm a little relieved to know there's at least someone who described such a similar experience. At least I'm not alone.
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Feels like that pushes my general mindset in the right direction. Can't be easy though. It's the intensity that does it.
Also not doing that thing where you're thinking about it so you start looking up answers on the internet. That seems to push my mindset in the wrong direction 9 times out of 10. Not worth it even for the occasional insight.
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[ - ] anon 2389604 0 points 2.9 yearsJun 27, 2022 21:45:42 ago (+0/-0)
Go for the fucking complete psychos , they're more fun ( and psycho )
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