The book: the easy method does not rely on willpower.
The method: just don't do it.
How the fuck is that not willpower? Sure, the book gives all kinds of reasons for porn to be bad, and then just says "stop it".
Habits are more than dopamine. The best method is to replace a bad habit with a beneficial one. Instead of porn, go for a walk... how fucking hard is that to say?
If everything was "easy" as this book implies, then nobody would have bad habits.
Humans (and all living creatures - plants and animals) are wired to respond to positive experiences. That's how evolution works.
"This berry tastes bad, now I feel bad." --- "nobody eat these berries"
"This berry makes me see colors better" --- "eat these berries if you want"
How about fucking fake internet points? How many people are addicted to social media? That's a habit too - just one that is bad in a different way.
You aren't going to get people off dependency forming drugs by saying "just stop - here are the reasons".
That caters to the logical mind, when most habits, and especially dependency forming habits, do not let the logical mind take back control just by saying "stop".
Ever see a real withdrawal? That shits fucking brutal. Telling that person to "just stop" would be fucking retarded.
YES - there are some people with the strength and presence of mind to see bad behavior and stop it - just as the book describes.
Unfortunately, most people - myself and yourselves included - cannot know when we are strong enough to kick a bad habit just by logic.
How many millions of stories are there of people moving from one social media platform to another? "Reddit sucks, hey, i found this place called voat."
Why? Because all of us niggerfaggots are hooked on the dopamine rush of fake internet points and "learning" shit (not necessarily actual truth).
It sounds easy, and some people can do it, but not everybody can, and to call it "easy peasy" makes it fucking worse for the people that fail because it is a double whammy to their self esteem.
Yes, we should shame people who do bad things, but with some sense of decency.
The best answer is to always REPLACE a bad habit with a good one - never to just stop and leave a hole.
If everything was "easy" as this book implies, then nobody would have bad habits.
True.
Humans (and all living creatures - plants and animals) are wired to respond to positive experiences. That's how evolution works.
The problem lies in that the modern world can provide levels of stimulus beyond that which our brains are evolved to handle. Known as supernormal stimuli, a concept first described by Dutch biologist Niko Tinbergen, any instinctual response to sensory input can be hijacked by an artificial one of greater degree, such as junk food or porn. Eventually, the reward pathways in the brain can become desensitized, just like with narcotics addiction, leading to a situation where the natural stimulus no longer works, and now require greater degrees and amounts of the stimulus to achieve a fix, resulting in a situation where the original object of the instinct is now shunned in favor of the artificial one.
This is why I believe those that say pornography is free and ubiquitous because it's meant to undermine the formation of natural, loving relationships.
Never in history has a species as a whole been so comfortable.
The more people get comfortable in our survival - producing idleness - the more creative people generally tend to become.
we have now reached a point where almost everybody has some idle time.
Porn is one distraction that affects the physical side of sexuality and relationships. Porn does have a unique position in fucking up relationships, but isn't the only culprit.
Video games are a distraction that affects the mental side of relationships.
Feminism and libtardism reduces men to physical objects that must meet and maintain specific standards. How is that not fucking up relationships?
I would hazard that more relationships are affected (or never started) from feminism, libtardism, social media addiction, and video games than from porn.
Could it be that porn consumption/addiction is a result of the fucked up cultural issues and war on men? The answer will never be truly known.
We just have too much free time and freedom on our hands to explore different aspects of life than ever before. Groups will use that freedom to exploit others for their own personal reasons/gain, to the detriment of society as a whole.
Is the answer to go back two hundred years and work 12-16 hour days and find and marry someone nearby and grow old and die?
I can't help but imagine how many millions/billions of thinkers have existed over the years that knew and discovered things, but were nobodies and just died away without leaving any mark.
Today we have billions of people doing their "thinking" and the new problem is one of being lost in the "too many thinkers" category, where too many voices makes everyone unheard.
It is a tangent, but related - we need stimulation to create and flourish. That stimulation is absent when there is no reward for anything. Why are so many people lost? depressed? mentally unstable? transfags? etc. Because they are seeking for some reward.
It used to be just having food and shelter was sufficient reward. Humans have moved beyond that and now crave the higher levels of Bloom's taxonomy.
I would argue that being "over stimulated" is how evolutionary pressure works. Natural stimulations are a "been there, done that" reward, and with all this free time, people do reach out for new challenges and rewards - which is natural.
Mountain climbing, video games, porn, drugs, social media, etc - all these are/can be bad things for people without the proper safety net to keep things in check as they explore inside themselves.
Only because we have such comforts do these become readily available.
Section 31.5 "You may wish to have sex without orgasm as well, which as mentioned earlier, is a wonderful sexual experience. You can strengthen your ability to do this by practicing Kegel exercises. From personal experience, the easiest and most effective way to target this muscle is stopping your urine mid-stream. Separation of the tantric and propagative parts of sex is one of the many bonuses of escaping the PMO trap (and my partners have loved it too!)."
[ + ] fightknightHERO
[ - ] fightknightHERO 3 points 2.6 yearsSep 19, 2021 14:31:58 ago (+3/-0)
[ + ] carrotcar
[ - ] carrotcar 2 points 2.6 yearsSep 19, 2021 14:13:11 ago (+2/-0)
The book: the easy method does not rely on willpower.
The method: just don't do it.
How the fuck is that not willpower? Sure, the book gives all kinds of reasons for porn to be bad, and then just says "stop it".
Habits are more than dopamine. The best method is to replace a bad habit with a beneficial one. Instead of porn, go for a walk... how fucking hard is that to say?
[ + ] Nein
[ - ] Nein 2 points 2.6 yearsSep 19, 2021 14:29:15 ago (+2/-0)
You can write a million resume why something is bad, but in the end you just have to pull the trigger
[ + ] toobaditworks
[ - ] toobaditworks 2 points 2.6 yearsSep 19, 2021 15:33:56 ago (+2/-0)
[ + ] carrotcar
[ - ] carrotcar 0 points 2.6 yearsSep 19, 2021 15:43:24 ago (+0/-0)
Humans (and all living creatures - plants and animals) are wired to respond to positive experiences. That's how evolution works.
"This berry tastes bad, now I feel bad." --- "nobody eat these berries"
"This berry makes me see colors better" --- "eat these berries if you want"
How about fucking fake internet points? How many people are addicted to social media? That's a habit too - just one that is bad in a different way.
You aren't going to get people off dependency forming drugs by saying "just stop - here are the reasons".
That caters to the logical mind, when most habits, and especially dependency forming habits, do not let the logical mind take back control just by saying "stop".
Ever see a real withdrawal? That shits fucking brutal. Telling that person to "just stop" would be fucking retarded.
YES - there are some people with the strength and presence of mind to see bad behavior and stop it - just as the book describes.
Unfortunately, most people - myself and yourselves included - cannot know when we are strong enough to kick a bad habit just by logic.
How many millions of stories are there of people moving from one social media platform to another? "Reddit sucks, hey, i found this place called voat."
Why? Because all of us niggerfaggots are hooked on the dopamine rush of fake internet points and "learning" shit (not necessarily actual truth).
It sounds easy, and some people can do it, but not everybody can, and to call it "easy peasy" makes it fucking worse for the people that fail because it is a double whammy to their self esteem.
Yes, we should shame people who do bad things, but with some sense of decency.
The best answer is to always REPLACE a bad habit with a good one - never to just stop and leave a hole.
[ + ] La_Chalupacabra
[ - ] La_Chalupacabra 0 points 2.6 yearsSep 19, 2021 16:35:42 ago (+0/-0)
True.
The problem lies in that the modern world can provide levels of stimulus beyond that which our brains are evolved to handle.
Known as supernormal stimuli, a concept first described by Dutch biologist Niko Tinbergen, any instinctual response to sensory input can be hijacked by an artificial one of greater degree, such as junk food or porn.
Eventually, the reward pathways in the brain can become desensitized, just like with narcotics addiction, leading to a situation where the natural stimulus no longer works, and now require greater degrees and amounts of the stimulus to achieve a fix, resulting in a situation where the original object of the instinct is now shunned in favor of the artificial one.
This is why I believe those that say pornography is free and ubiquitous because it's meant to undermine the formation of natural, loving relationships.
[ + ] carrotcar
[ - ] carrotcar 0 points 2.6 yearsSep 19, 2021 18:01:31 ago (+0/-0)
The more people get comfortable in our survival - producing idleness - the more creative people generally tend to become.
we have now reached a point where almost everybody has some idle time.
Porn is one distraction that affects the physical side of sexuality and relationships. Porn does have a unique position in fucking up relationships, but isn't the only culprit.
Video games are a distraction that affects the mental side of relationships.
Feminism and libtardism reduces men to physical objects that must meet and maintain specific standards. How is that not fucking up relationships?
I would hazard that more relationships are affected (or never started) from feminism, libtardism, social media addiction, and video games than from porn.
Could it be that porn consumption/addiction is a result of the fucked up cultural issues and war on men? The answer will never be truly known.
We just have too much free time and freedom on our hands to explore different aspects of life than ever before. Groups will use that freedom to exploit others for their own personal reasons/gain, to the detriment of society as a whole.
Is the answer to go back two hundred years and work 12-16 hour days and find and marry someone nearby and grow old and die?
I can't help but imagine how many millions/billions of thinkers have existed over the years that knew and discovered things, but were nobodies and just died away without leaving any mark.
Today we have billions of people doing their "thinking" and the new problem is one of being lost in the "too many thinkers" category, where too many voices makes everyone unheard.
It is a tangent, but related - we need stimulation to create and flourish. That stimulation is absent when there is no reward for anything. Why are so many people lost? depressed? mentally unstable? transfags? etc. Because they are seeking for some reward.
It used to be just having food and shelter was sufficient reward. Humans have moved beyond that and now crave the higher levels of Bloom's taxonomy.
I would argue that being "over stimulated" is how evolutionary pressure works. Natural stimulations are a "been there, done that" reward, and with all this free time, people do reach out for new challenges and rewards - which is natural.
Mountain climbing, video games, porn, drugs, social media, etc - all these are/can be bad things for people without the proper safety net to keep things in check as they explore inside themselves.
Only because we have such comforts do these become readily available.
[ + ] crookedoldman
[ - ] crookedoldman 2 points 2.6 yearsSep 19, 2021 14:55:29 ago (+2/-0)
[ + ] carrotcar
[ - ] carrotcar 1 point 2.6 yearsSep 19, 2021 15:49:09 ago (+1/-0)
Yeah, the power of positive thinking strikes again. No "willpower" needed when doing positive thinking.
Read some of the 1 star amazon reviews of that book to show how bullshit it is. It is willpower called a different name.
[ + ] mattsixteen24
[ - ] mattsixteen24 1 point 2.6 yearsSep 19, 2021 21:57:28 ago (+1/-0)
"You may wish to have sex without orgasm as well, which as mentioned earlier, is a wonderful sexual experience. You can strengthen your ability to do this by practicing Kegel exercises. From personal experience, the easiest and most effective way to target this muscle is stopping your urine mid-stream. Separation of the tantric and propagative parts of sex is one of the many bonuses of escaping the PMO trap (and my partners have loved it too!)."
This is trash.