She showed me where she has a few valuables hidden. Like...anticipating her own death without saying as much. I live pretty far away from her. She is in very good health for her age, but she is still pretty old. Frequent welfare checks will be difficult because shes about an hour away. I call her more often now. Probably don't go more than 3 days now without calling. Will probably step that up now to every other day when I'm not bogged down in my own shit. She already gave me her apartment keys last year. I dread having to find her in some state of death, but she only has me, so it will just be something I deal with hopefully not for at least another 5-10 years. The women in my family have some longevity. Her Grandmother lived to be 93, so there's that.
Grew up in MA. I'm the youngest of 6. Parents split when I was 12 (best day of my life. Old man was an abusive douche). My mother remarried and moved to FL when I was 18. Fast forward 25 years, her 2nd husband croaked and she is living on her own down there, constantly falling and getting injured. I was 43, still in MA, two oldest siblings dead from cancer, remaining three older than me are complete fuckups. She was a heavy drinker her entire adult life and when she hit 74 or so, she couldn't live on her own anymore. I found a HUD_subsidized apartment a mile away from where I was living and moved her up and in. Spent ten years after that taking care of her (grocery shopping, doctor appointments, dentist, hearing aids, you name it). When the covid bullshit went down, her health was going down hill fast. She rarely got off of her couch, had a pace maker installed, legs swelled up from failing heart, etc.. as much as I did for her she reached a point where she needed 24 hr attention. I found an assisted living home adjacent to a hospital and got her in (I make it sound simple and quick getting her into these places, but the application paper work and waiting lists are mind bogglingly long and complicated). Due to the covid crap, there was 6' distance rules when I went to visit, plexiglass barrier, she understood none of it, they couldn't keep her hearing aids working, they tried keeping a mask on her 24/7, total fucking cruel joke. She lasted only a few months in there before she died St. Patricks day, 2021. I did what I could for 10 years and still feel bad about the way she went out. I will never forget what the scum that rule this rock did to us all with that covid scam
clymer 15 points 1 month ago
Grew up in MA. I'm the youngest of 6. Parents split when I was 12 (best day of my life. Old man was an abusive douche). My mother remarried and moved to FL when I was 18. Fast forward 25 years, her 2nd husband croaked and she is living on her own down there, constantly falling and getting injured. I was 43, still in MA, two oldest siblings dead from cancer, remaining three older than me are complete fuckups. She was a heavy drinker her entire adult life and when she hit 74 or so, she couldn't live on her own anymore. I found a HUD_subsidized apartment a mile away from where I was living and moved her up and in. Spent ten years after that taking care of her (grocery shopping, doctor appointments, dentist, hearing aids, you name it). When the covid bullshit went down, her health was going down hill fast. She rarely got off of her couch, had a pace maker installed, legs swelled up from failing heart, etc.. as much as I did for her she reached a point where she needed 24 hr attention. I found an assisted living home adjacent to a hospital and got her in (I make it sound simple and quick getting her into these places, but the application paper work and waiting lists are mind bogglingly long and complicated). Due to the covid crap, there was 6' distance rules when I went to visit, plexiglass barrier, she understood none of it, they couldn't keep her hearing aids working, they tried keeping a mask on her 24/7, total fucking cruel joke. She lasted only a few months in there before she died St. Patricks day, 2021. I did what I could for 10 years and still feel bad about the way she went out. I will never forget what the scum that rule this rock did to us all with that covid scam