Straight up forward and uncomplicated, instinctively natural behavior dictates the "point of having children", the human "need" for family ontologically differs from the "wants" of having family. As simple and shallow as that question historically was, (basically without substantive points to argue) there are major factors affecting the entire traditions and concept of family..."factors" newly recent to the destiny of the White S.A.N.E. "family".
Other than instinctive adherence to the human imperative of procreation I honestly don't think that anyone can give an indisputable answer to that question...the number of reasons for having children are proportionately countered with legitimate reasons for not...only from experience can that question be debated, not answered (I don't think that there is a ruling answer).
What does one say to one who has put one's family, wife and children, ahead of one's self regardless of the emotional and physical demands that normally break those who just give up and walk away without heart or conscience, one who would literally risk life and limb to protect family, what can be said to one who has suddenly lost the family that one was mortally devoted to?
What words of reason does one need to hear that brings comfort to someone who, after 40years, suddenly has those past 40years dissappear, like waking from a confusing dream...do you ask them if they would repeat those 40years? Do you ask one if there's any regrets about having kids or getting married?
Nobody can relate to the demoralizing numbness of the pain and anguish associated with the immediate loss of everyone who were, to them, in essence the literal meaning of love. It's impossible to understand how deep the gash when wounded by the loss of love.
ONE MUST SUFFER TO KNOW WHAT ONE FEELS WHEN ONE SUFFERS.
Time heales all wounds...BUT...the time it takes to heal can be hell as memories aren't easy to erase. Sometimes a sudden recollection of a happy past can have a stifling effect, an immobilizing numbness and real mood changeer, counter to that, one wouldn't experience those effects if one's past didn't consist of the elements that one put so much love into.
Simply stating that "if I could do it all over I would never have kids, or a family etc ", is not that simple. It's also not easy for one to understand what has happened that caused the shocking loss of 40years of one's life.
That's the best I can do to explain my thoughts on this matter.
purityspiral -1 points 2 weeks ago
Its a shame they downvoted this, you've been trying so long and you finally made one that was funny.