I have two seperate theological ways, based off a calvinist pastor, and a non denominational pastor. The calvinist one said forgive them for yourself, never talk to them again, draw up boundaries and dont idealize them into something they could never be for you. If i feel ready to talk, than talk. And if not, that's fine too.
The non denominational pastor told me remove all boundaries, let my parents be the way they are cause they're my parents, and let myself get endlessly abused and forgive them so they can continue. Whilst I know method two is horseshit, i cant help but feel conflicted at how common this terrible advice is.
I've been using method 1 consistently for some time now, but my extended Church family has been pressuring me VERY aggressively towards method 2.
Gowithit 0 points 1 year ago
Use a firm hand. Figures you wouldn't understand that.